Coaching practices for How to Give Directions to Kids
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- I end up saying the same thing five times, louder each time, until I’m basically yelling before anything happens
- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- I lay down a rule and my kids ignore it because it’s "my" rule they had no say in
- I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
Practices that may help
- Give clear, calm, single instructions
One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use family meetings to solve problems together
When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Talk with your child about their day and interests
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
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Talk with your child about their day and interests
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Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
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Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
- When Triple P Parenting Descriptive Praise
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
- Clear Instructions Children
One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
Give clear, calm, single instructions
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Calibrate help to the learner’s actual performance moment by moment rather than delivering a fixed dose.
Provide contingent support: more help when needed, less when not
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