Coaching practices for How to Gracefully Ask If Top Performers Are Rewarded During Job Interview

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• When something goes well I tend to quietly absorb the credit or just say "great team effort," and I never actually name who did what
• The conversation goes great and then it just...
• When someone does something genuinely great I just toss off a "nice work" and move on, and it barely registers
• I keep hiring for the most impressive resume and then watching them work purely transactionally, and I want to start screening for whether someone actually believes in what we’re doing
• When someone does something genuinely great I tend to file it away to mention at their review, and by the time it comes around it’s gone cold and vague

Practices that may help

1. Give recognition generously and specifically
   Call out others’ contributions publicly, specifically, and without claiming credit for yourself.
   Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
2. Close every informational interview with one forward step
   End by asking: "Is there someone else you think I should talk to?"
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
3. Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
   Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
4. Hire people who share the Why, not just the skills
   Skills can be learned; shared belief cannot — filtering for Why-alignment at hiring is the highest-leverage culture move.
   Start With Why: Leading Through Purpose
5. One-minute praisings: specific, immediate, genuine
   Praise that names the exact behavior immediately after it occurs reinforces that behavior far more effectively than delayed or generic recognition.
   The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
6. Be wary of "if-then" rewards on creative work
   Contingent rewards can narrow focus and dull performance on complex tasks.
   Drive: Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose
7. Invite input explicitly and specifically
   Ask for candid input on a specific topic — not "any thoughts?" but "where do you see this plan failing?"
   Psychological Safety in Teams
8. Apply door-in-the-face for prosocial or charitable asks
   The technique was originally tested in a prosocial context and works especially well when both parties share values.
   The Door-in-the-Face Technique, Made Practical
9. Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
   Adam Grant’s research shows that “givers” — people who contribute to others without immediate return — populate both the bottom and the top of success distributions, while “matchers” and “takers” cluster in the middle. The difference between givers who burn out and those who thrive is how they protect their own time and energy. The evidence is observational and based on surveys and workplace studies.
10. Close with "What was most useful for you?"
    The closing question turns the conversation into a learning that sticks — and teaches you what is actually valuable.
    The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like

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