Coaching practices for How to Make 11 Years Old Kid Do Homework

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• Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
• My kid and I agree on a fix and it sounds great in the moment, but a few days later it’s fallen apart again
• When my kid acts out I lose it
• When I ask my kid about their day I get one-word answers, and I realize I only ever ask about homework and chores
• Every time I put my foot down and insist, my kid blows up worse

Practices that may help

1. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
   Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
2. Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
   A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
3. Refuse to energize negative behavior
   Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
4. Talk with your child about their day and interests
   Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
5. Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
   Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
6. Give clear, calm, single instructions
   One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
7. Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
   Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
8. Review the list to prevent permanent deferral
   Structured procrastination works only if the top item eventually gets done — build in periodic forcing.
   Structured Procrastination, Made Practical
9. Decompose tasks to a single next physical action
   Replace any task name with the single next physical action that moves it forward.
   Task Initiation: Overcoming the Start Problem
10. Use family meetings to solve problems together
    When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)

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