How to Make a Reflection: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices

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Practices that may help

1. Build a weekly reflection ritual so the cycle runs regularly
   Schedule a fixed reflection window so the four stages happen as a routine, not an afterthought.
   Structured Reflection: Kolb’s Learning Cycle in Practice
2. Reflect back what you heard
   Mirror the speaker’s feeling and content back to them so they can hear themselves accurately.
   Active Listening, Made Practical
3. Use simple reflections to confirm you heard correctly
   Repeat the key word or phrase back as a gentle check, not as a question.
   Reflective Listening: The Carl Rogers Method
4. End every review with a single resolved next action
   The review is incomplete until you name one specific thing you will do differently tomorrow.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
5. Make complex reflections that add meaning
   Reflect not just what was said but what it seems to mean — and check if you got it right.
   Reflective Listening: The Carl Rogers Method
6. Extract a generalizable principle from what you observed
   After observing what happened, ask: "What general rule does this experience support or challenge?"
   Kolb’s Experiential Learning Cycle: Learning by Doing and Reflecting
7. Close with a forward-looking resolve
   Choose one concrete intention to carry into tomorrow before closing the review.
   The Ignatian Examen: Five Movements of Daily Review
8. Close with a resolve for tomorrow
   End by choosing one concrete intention to carry into the next day.
   The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day
9. Keep it brief and daily
   Do a short Examen most days rather than a long one occasionally.
   The Daily Examen: Reviewing the Day
10. The fly-on-the-wall replay
    Replay a difficult event as if watching it from outside the room rather than from behind your own eyes.
    Self-Distancing Journaling

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep meaning to step back and take stock, but reflection always loses to whatever’s urgent→
• I want people to walk away from talking to me feeling like I really got it→
• When someone’s talking to me I want them to feel like I’m actually catching what they’re saying, but everything I try comes out as another question and it starts to feel like an interrogation.→
• I reflect every night and have all these insights about what I’d do differently, but nothing ever actually changes→
• I can repeat back someone’s words fine, but I want to actually get to what they mean underneath→

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