Coaching practices for How to Stay Aligned with Values

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  • I stand up and tell my team what we value, but I’ve started to wonder whether my own choices actually match the words
  • I say I value certain things, but when I look honestly at how I actually spent my week, my real priorities were something else entirely
  • I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
  • Working on my values feels like an endless aspiration with no scoreboard
  • We’ve got nice-sounding values up on the wall and the website, but they do nothing in the room when a real hiring or judgment call is on the table

Practices that may help

  1. Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
    Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
    Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
  2. Check action against stated values — the alignment review
    Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
    The Pythagorean Evening Review
  3. The values–behavior gap check
    Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
    Values Card Sort
  4. Values Clarification, Made Practical
    Values clarification is the work of naming what matters most to you, sorting the genuine priorities from the inherited ones, and using them to guide real choices. The methods — card sorts, ranking, value-consistent action — draw heavily on values work in acceptance-and-commitment therapy (ACT), which has clinical support; living in line with your values correlates with wellbeing in observational research.
  5. Review the bullseye weekly to track real movement
    Re-mark each domain every week and compare — small outward or inward shifts are your feedback loop.
    Values Bullseye, Made Practical
  6. Make core values operational, not decorative
    Use core values in hiring, recognition, and decision-making — not just on the website.
    The Rockefeller Habits: Scaling Up with Rhythm and Focus
  7. Close the loop: check values-alignment after acting
    After a committed action, briefly confirm it expressed the value — or revise what you do next time.
    Committed Action, Made Practical
  8. Values clarification: what matters most to you?
    Identify 3–5 core values — not what you should value, but what actually matters when life is stripped back.
    Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
  9. Clarify values and choose them actively
    Name what genuinely matters to you — not what should matter — and make it a live choice today.
    Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
  10. The practice of personal integrity
    Keep your behavior aligned with your stated values — match your walk to your talk.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical

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