How to Stop Suppressing Emotions: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices
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Practices that may help
- Distinguish suppression from reappraisal in the moment
Learn to tell when you are actually regulating versus just masking — the experience is different once you know what to look for.
The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical - Recognize the cost of suppression
Notice when you’re pushing emotions down — and understand why this strategy is more expensive than it looks.
Cognitive Reappraisal vs. Suppression, Made Practical - Develop selective authentic expression as a skill
Learn when and how to express genuinely — so you have a real alternative to suppression rather than a choice between suppression and flooding.
The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical - Label emotions precisely to reduce the need to suppress them
Naming what you feel with precision reduces its intensity — diminishing the charge that suppression is recruited to contain.
The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical - Label instead of suppress
Choose describing the feeling over clamping it down or distracting from it.
Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It - The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical
James Gross’s process model of emotion regulation shows that expressive suppression — hiding or masking emotional expression — reliably reduces visible emotion while increasing physiological arousal, impairing memory for the suppressed event, and taxing the cognitive resources of those in the interaction. Cognitive reappraisal — changing how you interpret the situation — achieves better emotional outcomes without these costs. - Account for suppression’s memory cost
Suppressing emotion during a conversation impairs your memory of it — which has downstream costs to learning, relationships, and decisions.
The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical - Practice expressing feelings you habitually suppress
Name one feeling you regularly suppress and find one safe context to express it this week.
The Regret of the Dying - A — Allow the experience to be as it is
Let what is present be here, without pushing it away, numbing it, or elaborating it.
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice - Replace suppression with upstream reappraisal
Shift to reappraisal — changing how you think about the event before it generates the emotion you would otherwise suppress.
The Costs of Expressive Suppression, Made Practical
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I walked out of that conversation looking perfectly composed, and I told myself I handled it well
- My whole strategy is to clamp it down and look composed, jaw tight, breath shallow, smiling through it
- The reason I bottle everything up is that the only alternative I can imagine is losing it completely
- I’m carrying this big undifferentiated lump of "I feel bad" or "I’m stressed," and because I can’t even name what it actually is, it just sits there at full strength and all I can do is clamp down on it
- My move is always to clamp down and tell everyone I’m fine and just push through
Related concerns
- How To Avoid Suppressing Emotions
Notice when you’re pushing emotions down — and understand why this strategy is more expensive than it looks.
Recognize the cost of suppression
- How To Get Rid Of Suppressed Emotions
Notice when you’re pushing emotions down — and understand why this strategy is more expensive than it looks.
- How To Release Suppressed Emotions
Learn when and how to express genuinely — so you have a real alternative to suppression rather than a choice between suppression and flooding.
Develop selective authentic expression as a skill
- How To Stop Subconsciously Suppressing Emotions
Notice when you’re pushing emotions down — and understand why this strategy is more expensive than it looks.
- How To Stop Suppressing Negative Emotions
Notice when you’re pushing emotions down — and understand why this strategy is more expensive than it looks.
- Stop Suppressing Emotions
Notice when you’re pushing emotions down — and understand why this strategy is more expensive than it looks.
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