Coaching practices for How to Talk About Trust Issues

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Something’s damaged my trust in them but I can’t bring myself to just say so, so instead I quietly pull back, vent to other people, and let it fester
• Trust with this person has cracked and I just keep apologizing for "not being trustworthy" in this big vague way
• To smooth things over I say "sounds good," "I’m fine with it," "I understand" when none of it is actually true
• I keep everything at work behind a polished, guarded front
• I won’t hand anyone real responsibility until they’ve completely proven themselves first

Practices that may help

1. Have explicit trust conversations when trust is at stake
   Name the trust issue directly rather than managing it indirectly.
   The Trust Triangle
2. Diagnose which trust dimension is broken before trying to repair
   Name the specific trust assessment that failed — then address that one, not trust in general.
   The Trust Triangle
3. Build sincerity by saying only what you mean
   Only make commitments and assertions you actually believe — and retract the ones you don’t.
   The Trust Triangle
4. Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
   Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
5. Extend trust deliberately to invite it
   Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
   The Trust Triangle
6. Be transparent about your competence limits
   Name what you can do, what you can’t, and what you’ll need to learn — before you are found out.
   The Trust Triangle
7. Build reliability through small, visible commitments
   Reliability is built not by big promises but by flawlessly keeping small, everyday ones.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
8. Lead with how you feel, not what they did
   Open with "I feel [emotion] when [situation]" before describing what you want changed.
   The Soft Startup: How You Begin a Difficult Conversation Determines How It Ends
9. Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
   Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
10. The Trust Triangle
    Charles Feltman’s Trust Triangle (from The Thin Book of Trust) identifies four distinct assessments that together constitute trust: sincerity (I mean what I say), reliability (I do what I say), competence (I have the ability to do what I say), and care (I have your interests at heart). Trust breaks down when any one of these assessments fails — and repairing trust requires identifying which assessment was damaged.

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