Coaching practices for How to Talk About Yourself Professionally
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- Someone asks "so what are you looking for?" and I ramble out something vague and apologetic
- When I want people to take me seriously I tend to lead with my résumé and how much I know, and I can feel it land as bragging
- I dominate conversations without meaning to
- I’m about to meet someone important for the first time and I have no read on them yet
- Someone gave me real time and good advice, and weeks go by where I never circle back to tell them I actually used it
Practices that may help
- Practise your story before you need it
Have a clear, genuine two-minute narrative about who you are and where you’re headed.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Signal credibility without claiming it
Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical - Be a good listener; encourage others to talk about themselves
Most people would rather have a great listener than a great talker.
How to Win Friends and Influence People, Made Practical - Read assertiveness and responsiveness quickly
Observe whether someone talks more than they listen (assertiveness) and whether they show emotion openly (responsiveness).
Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate - Send a meaningful thank-you note
Write a follow-up that references something specific and reports back on how you used their advice.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Use "we" language to describe your struggles
Shift from "I always fail at this" to "this is something a lot of us find hard."
Common Humanity, Made Practical - Use voice pacing and tone as accessible, real-time confidence levers
Speaking slowly, at moderate volume, with deliberate pauses signals confidence to listeners — and partially to yourself.
Power Posing Revisited - Third-person labeling to activate the witness
Refer to yourself by name or in the third person when narrating your experience: "Dan is feeling anxious."
The Witness Stance - Listen far more than you talk
Aim to talk a fraction of the time; your silence is what makes space for the real issues.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Follow up every meaningful interaction
Send a specific, timely follow-up after every conversation that matters.
Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
Related concerns
- How To Be More Confident In Talking To People
Most people would rather have a great listener than a great talker.
Be a good listener; encourage others to talk about themselves
- How To Be More Confident Speaking At Work
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
- How To Get Information About Job Im Interviewing For From Friend Who Already Works There
Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
- Informational Interview Follow Up
End by asking: "Is there someone else you think I should talk to?"
Close every informational interview with one forward step
- Informational Interviews Career Research That Builds Your Network After A Loss
An informational interview is a low-stakes conversation with someone in a role or field you’re curious about — you ask questions, they share experience, and no job is on the table. Richard Bolles’s What Color Is Your Parachute? popularised this as a career research tool; the evidence is largely observational and practitioner, but it consistently shows that direct conversation with insiders produces better career decisions and unexpected referrals.
- Mentioning Phd Admission On Resume When Prioritizing Industry Job Search
Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
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