Coaching practices for Is it Appropriate to Ask Why a Coworker Was Fired

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• I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
• I’m one click away from escalating this
• Something a coworker did landed way harder than it should have and I’ve been stewing on it all day
• Every time I question someone’s decision they get defensive and start justifying themselves instead of actually thinking, and I can’t figure out why my questions keep landing like accusations.
• The conversation goes great and then it just...

Practices that may help

1. Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
   Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
2. Investigate before escalating
   Ask one honest clarifying question before taking action on an assumed motive.
   Hanlon's Razor: Never Attribute to Malice What Stupidity Can Explain
3. Downward arrow for interpreting others’ behavior
   Use the arrow technique to identify the core belief driving your worst-case interpretation of what someone did.
   The Downward Arrow: Uncovering the Core Beliefs Behind Distress
4. Replace "why" with "how" or "what"
   "Why" sounds accusatory; "how" and "what" invite problem-solving.
   Calibrated Questions, Made Practical
5. Close every informational interview with one forward step
   End by asking: "Is there someone else you think I should talk to?"
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
6. Request the conversation the right way
   A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
7. Make the question precise, not generic
   Ask "why does THIS fact hold, given what I know?" rather than a vague "why?"
   Elaborative Interrogation: Ask "Why Is This True?"
8. Ask the three restorative questions
   Start every harm conversation with: who was hurt, what do they need, and who is responsible for meeting those needs?
   Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
9. Create safety for an honest account before expecting one
   People who expect punishment for missing a commitment will not tell you the real reason they missed it.
   Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter
10. Distinguish human error from system conditions
    When a person is the proximate cause, ask why the system allowed the error to occur.
    The Five Whys

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