Coaching practices for Lmx Repair
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Things with my manager have gone cold and transactional, and we’re both just avoiding it and quietly resenting each other
- My boss took a real chance on me and advocated for me, and I just took it and moved on without ever closing the loop
- There are people on my team I’ve quietly written off
- I keep waiting until the argument's over to make things right, and by then the damage is done
- I’ve started treating every fight we have as proof that something’s broken between us, and because we never really circle back to mend them afterward, each unfinished one chips away at all the good we’ve built
Practices that may help
- Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
Leader-member exchange theory, developed by George Graen and Mary Uhl-Bien, holds that leaders do not treat all followers the same — they develop distinct dyadic relationships ranging from high-LMX (trust, respect, mutual obligation) to low-LMX (formal, exchange-based). High-LMX relationships are consistently associated with better performance, satisfaction, and career outcomes in observational research. - Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Reciprocate when your leader invests in you
When a leader gives you trust, opportunity, or advocacy, close the loop with visible follow-through.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Deliberately expand your inner circle
Move team members from low-LMX to high-LMX through intentional relationship investment.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Make small repairs during conflict -- not only big apologies after
A touch, a softer tone, a brief I love you mid-argument is repair -- use it.
Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships - Treat conflict as maintenance, not maintenance failure
Repair well and quickly — because how you end conflict matters more than how you conduct it.
Relationship Maintenance Behaviors - Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
A repair attempt is any move -- humor, an apology, a softened tone, a bid to take a break -- that tries to lower conflict tension before it spirals. John Gottman's research found that whether couples successfully made and accepted repair attempts was a key marker separating stable from distressed couples. It is not avoiding conflict that matters most; it is the ability to repair within it. - Make (and accept) repair attempts
A repair attempt is any bid to de-escalate — a joke, a softened tone, a hand reached out — and accepting one matters as much as making it.
Rupture and Repair - Invest in the relationship before you need it
Build relational credit through reliability and initiative, not charm or performance alone.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Rupture and Repair
Ruptures — the inevitable misattunements, conflicts, and disconnections in any close relationship — are normal and unavoidable; what builds security is reliable repair afterward. Research from infant still-face studies, couples work, and psychotherapy all converges on the same finding: relationships are not made secure by avoiding rupture but by the predictable experience that disconnection can be named and reconnected.
Related concerns
- Repair Leader Relationship
Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
- Quick Repair Relationship
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
Repair quickly and thoroughly
- Relationship Repair
A repair attempt is any move -- humor, an apology, a softened tone, a bid to take a break -- that tries to lower conflict tension before it spirals. John Gottman's research found that whether couples successfully made and accepted repair attempts was a key marker separating stable from distressed couples. It is not avoiding conflict that matters most; it is the ability to repair within it.
- Repairing Relationships
A repair attempt is any move -- humor, an apology, a softened tone, a bid to take a break -- that tries to lower conflict tension before it spirals. John Gottman's research found that whether couples successfully made and accepted repair attempts was a key marker separating stable from distressed couples. It is not avoiding conflict that matters most; it is the ability to repair within it.
- Accepting Repair Attempts Relationship
Reject a clumsy repair attempt and you teach your partner to stop trying.
Accept imperfect repair attempts
- Boundary And Relationship Repair
Repair well and quickly — because how you end conflict matters more than how you conduct it.
Treat conflict as maintenance, not maintenance failure
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