Coaching practices for Managing Up Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss After a Loss
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- I keep delivering work I’m proud of and it somehow lands flat with my boss, and I’m realizing I have no real idea what they’re actually being judged on or pressured about
- I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
- I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content
- They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on
- I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
Practices that may help
- Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus. - Map your manager’s top three priorities
Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Adapt to your manager’s communication style
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Understand the constraints your manager operates under
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Coach the person, not just the problem
The most important thing a manager can work on is the person’s capacity to handle future problems, not just today’s.
The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm - Name the loss the adaptive challenge requires
Explicitly acknowledge what people must give up — not just what they will gain.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
Related concerns
- Managing Up Practical Skills For Working With Your Boss After A Setback
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
- Deal With Toxic Manager When You Cant Quit
State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
Disagree with your manager constructively
- How To Build Relationship With Boss
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
- How To Deal With A Weak Manager
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Understand the constraints your manager operates under
- How To Deal With Bullying At Work As A Manager
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Send proactive, brief status updates
- How To Handle Bullying In The Workplace As A Manager
Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
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