Coaching practices for Motivational Interviewing for My Teenager
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- They tell me what kind of parent or partner they want to be, and it’s miles from how they’re actually living
- Every time I lay out for someone all the reasons they should change, they just argue back for staying exactly as they are
- I’m completely unmotivated and I honestly can’t tell whether it’s that deep down I don’t believe I can pull this off, or that I just don’t care about it
- They say they want to change but they’re clearly half-in, half-out, and I can’t tell whether it’s that the change doesn’t matter enough to them or that they just don’t believe they could actually pull it off.
- My motivation for this keeps fading because it’s all external
Practices that may help
- Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
Motivational interviewing (MI) is a collaborative conversation style that strengthens a person’s own motivation for change by drawing out their reasons rather than supplying them. Meta-analyses find small-to-moderate effects across health behaviors — modest on average, but reliably better than confrontational or advice-giving styles, which can backfire. - Develop discrepancy between values and behavior
Gently hold up the gap between what the person wants and what they’re doing.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Evoke change talk instead of supplying it
Ask questions that lead the person to voice their own reasons for changing.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Diagnose whether you are stuck on expectancy or value
Before trying to motivate yourself, identify which of the two factors is actually low.
Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t) - Scale importance and confidence with the readiness ruler
Ask “On a 0–10 scale, how ready are you?” — then ask why not lower.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Practice self-reevaluation to build a new self-image
Imagine how you will think and feel about yourself once you have changed — and how you’ll feel if you don’t.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change, Made Practical - Use autonomy-supportive self-talk
Coach yourself with choice and rationale, not "shoulds" and self-pressure.
Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Ask reflective questions instead of giving answers
Questions that prompt self-examination invite the person in; directives keep them out.
Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex - Locate the autonomous "why"
Reframe a task until you are doing it from your own values, not external pressure.
Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
Related concerns
- Motivational Interviewing
Motivational interviewing (MI) is a collaborative conversation style that strengthens a person’s own motivation for change by drawing out their reasons rather than supplying them. Meta-analyses find small-to-moderate effects across health behaviors — modest on average, but reliably better than confrontational or advice-giving styles, which can backfire.
- Motivational Interviewing On A Budget
Motivational interviewing (MI) is a collaborative conversation style that strengthens a person’s own motivation for change by drawing out their reasons rather than supplying them. Meta-analyses find small-to-moderate effects across health behaviors — modest on average, but reliably better than confrontational or advice-giving styles, which can backfire.
- What Is Motivational Interviewing
Motivational interviewing (MI) is a collaborative conversation style that strengthens a person’s own motivation for change by drawing out their reasons rather than supplying them. Meta-analyses find small-to-moderate effects across health behaviors — modest on average, but reliably better than confrontational or advice-giving styles, which can backfire.
- How To Motivate Someone To Change
Ask questions that lead the person to voice their own reasons for changing.
Evoke change talk instead of supplying it
- Motivational Interviewing During A Big Change
Motivational interviewing (MI) is a collaborative conversation style that strengthens a person’s own motivation for change by drawing out their reasons rather than supplying them. Meta-analyses find small-to-moderate effects across health behaviors — modest on average, but reliably better than confrontational or advice-giving styles, which can backfire.
- Motivational Interviewing When Burned Out
Motivational interviewing (MI) is a collaborative conversation style that strengthens a person’s own motivation for change by drawing out their reasons rather than supplying them. Meta-analyses find small-to-moderate effects across health behaviors — modest on average, but reliably better than confrontational or advice-giving styles, which can backfire.
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