Coaching practices for Perspective Taking Negotiation
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve built up this villain version of the other person in my head
- When I negotiate I jump straight to my offer and try to claim my slice, and I suspect I’m leaving value on the table
- We’re treating this like there’s one pie to fight over and someone has to lose
- There are several things on the table here, and some matter way more to me than others
- The second they push back I either cave completely or harden into all-or-nothing, because I walked in without ever deciding what I could actually live with
Practices that may help
- Take their perspective accurately
Build a precise model of how the situation looks from their side, not a caricature.
Tactical Empathy - Expand the pie before you divide it
In negotiations, surface what the other side actually values most before claiming your share.
Give and Take: The Giver Advantage - Invent options for mutual gain
Brainstorm multiple possible deals before deciding, expanding the pie before splitting it.
Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation - Logroll by trading issues of unequal importance
Concede on what matters less to you in exchange for gains on what matters more.
Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference - Negotiate: know your minimum and be willing to give and take
Decide in advance what you are willing to accept short of your full ask, and be ready to offer something in exchange.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively - Run a negotiation debrief to learn what value was left on the table
After closing, compare priorities with the other side to see the trades you both missed.
Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference - Focus on interests, not positions
Ask why a position is taken — the underlying interest is almost always more negotiable than the stated demand.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Add issues to expand the pie
Bring more variables in — timing, scope, future work — so there’s more to trade.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie - Make multiple equivalent simultaneous offers (MESOs)
Propose several package deals of equal value to you — see which the other side prefers.
Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference - Trade across differing priorities
Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
Related concerns
- How To Create Value In Negotiation
Expand the pie before you fight over slices — but don’t forget to take your slice.
Create value first, then claim your share
- Value Creation Negotiation
Expanding the pie means trading across issues that the two parties value differently, so both sides gain more than any fixed compromise would allow. Malhotra and Bazerman’s research shows that most negotiators leave joint gains on the table because they treat every issue as a zero-sum battle.
- Creating Value In Negotiation
Expand the pie before you fight over slices — but don’t forget to take your slice.
- Dear Man Negotiate
Decide in advance what you are willing to accept short of your full ask, and be ready to offer something in exchange.
Negotiate: know your minimum and be willing to give and take
- Generating Options Negotiation
Generate multiple creative options without commitment before evaluating any — the solution space is usually larger than the initial positions suggest.
Invent options for mutual gain before selecting
- Integrative Bargaining Tactics
When both sides care about the same thing — quality, reputation, timing — agreements that serve that shared interest outperform splits.
Identify compatible interests for joint gain
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