Coaching practices for Positive Psychology for My Teenager
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- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
- There are certain moments
- I don’t want to lie to myself with forced positivity
- I tell my kid "good job, you’re so smart" constantly, and now they freeze up at anything hard and keep looking to me to confirm they’re okay
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
Practices that may help
- Positive Psychology, Made Practical
Martin Seligman’s positive psychology studies what makes life worth living, organized around the PERMA model — Positive emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. Several of its signature interventions, including three good things, the gratitude visit, and using signature strengths, have genuine randomized-trial support for raising well-being and lowering depressive symptoms. - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Calibrate toward accuracy, not positivity
The target is a realistic, flexible explanatory style — not Pollyannaish optimism.
Learned Optimism: Seligman’s ABCDE Method - Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Encourage specific contributions and efforts
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Find one thing to appreciate in a current difficulty
Without toxic positivity, identify one genuine gift — skill, relationship, or insight — inside a current struggle.
Counting Blessings: The Psychology of Grateful Reflection - Monitor and adjust your positivity ratio
Track the ratio of positive to negative emotional states in your day — not to suppress the negative, but to ensure the positive is present in proportion.
Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
Related concerns
- Positive Psychology As A Parent
Martin Seligman’s positive psychology studies what makes life worth living, organized around the PERMA model — Positive emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. Several of its signature interventions, including three good things, the gratitude visit, and using signature strengths, have genuine randomized-trial support for raising well-being and lowering depressive symptoms.
- When Natural Logical Consequences Encouragement Not Praise
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- Character Recognition Parenting
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
- Encouraging A Child To Follow Their Natural Gifts
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
- How Do I Help My Child To Love Her Mother More Than Her Grandmother
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
- How To Encourage A Child Specifically
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
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