Coaching practices for Positive Reinforcement

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep promising myself rewards that are supposed to motivate me
• When someone does something genuinely great I tend to file it away to mention at their review, and by the time it comes around it’s gone cold and vague
• I tell my kid "good job, you’re so smart" constantly, and now they freeze up at anything hard and keep looking to me to confirm they’re okay
• I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
• I tell myself I’ll feel good once I hit the big goal, so the small steps along the way get no payoff at all

Practices that may help

1. Design a genuine positive reinforcer for the target behavior
   Identify something that genuinely increases your likelihood of repeating the behavior — not what should work, but what actually does.
   Operant Conditioning and Schedules of Reinforcement
2. One-minute praisings: specific, immediate, genuine
   Praise that names the exact behavior immediately after it occurs reinforces that behavior far more effectively than delayed or generic recognition.
   The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
3. Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
   Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
   Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
4. Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
   Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
5. Celebrate immediately after the behavior — not after the goal
   Produce a genuine positive feeling within two seconds of completing any target behavior, regardless of size.
   Celebrating Small Wins
6. Celebrate immediately to wire it in
   Generate a genuine flash of positive emotion the instant you do the tiny behavior.
   Tiny Habits, Made Practical
7. Use escalating rewards to maintain motivation across time
   Build in reward escalation — increasing token value for sustained performance — to counteract the habituation that flattens fixed rewards.
   Contingency Management and Token Economies
8. Encourage specific contributions and efforts
   "You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
9. Pair token reinforcement with social reinforcement
   Public acknowledgment and social recognition amplify the motivating effect of token systems beyond what tokens alone provide.
   Contingency Management and Token Economies
10. Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
    Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical

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