Coaching practices for Behavioral Praise Technique

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  • I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
  • I praise my kid constantly
  • When someone does something genuinely great I tend to file it away to mention at their review, and by the time it comes around it’s gone cold and vague
  • When someone does something genuinely great I just toss off a "nice work" and move on, and it barely registers
  • I tell my kid "good job, you’re so smart" constantly, and now they freeze up at anything hard and keep looking to me to confirm they’re okay

Practices that may help

  1. Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
    Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
  2. Encourage specific contributions and efforts
    "You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
  3. One-minute praisings: specific, immediate, genuine
    Praise that names the exact behavior immediately after it occurs reinforces that behavior far more effectively than delayed or generic recognition.
    The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
  4. Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
    Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
  5. Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
    Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
    Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
  6. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
    Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  7. Make praise as specific as criticism
    Vague praise is nearly worthless; name exactly what was good and why.
    Radical Candor, Made Practical
  8. Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
    Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  9. Celebrate immediately to wire it in
    Generate a genuine flash of positive emotion the instant you do the tiny behavior.
    Tiny Habits, Made Practical
  10. Use escalating rewards to maintain motivation across time
    Build in reward escalation — increasing token value for sustained performance — to counteract the habituation that flattens fixed rewards.
    Contingency Management and Token Economies

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