Coaching practices for Relationship Maintenance Behaviors Stafford

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  • I’ve started treating every fight we have as proof that something’s broken between us, and because we never really circle back to mend them afterward, each unfinished one chips away at all the good we’ve built
  • I’m warmer and lighter with near-strangers than I am with my own partner
  • My partner and I have drifted into totally separate social lives
  • We’ve drifted into roommates running on autopilot
  • The moment my partner snaps at me or does the annoying thing, I fire right back

Practices that may help

  1. Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
    Relationship maintenance behaviors are the everyday actions partners use to sustain relationship satisfaction, commitment, and closeness over time. Laura Stafford’s research identified five evidence-linked categories — positivity, openness, assurances, social networks, and sharing tasks — with positivity and assurances showing the strongest and most consistent links to satisfaction.
  2. Treat conflict as maintenance, not maintenance failure
    Repair well and quickly — because how you end conflict matters more than how you conduct it.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  3. Maintain positivity as a daily practice
    Be pleasant, cheerful, and avoid criticism as a baseline — not only when things are good.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  4. Invest in shared social networks
    Spend time with people who affirm and are connected to both of you as a couple.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  5. Pro-relationship maintenance behaviors
    Actively do things that maintain and strengthen the relationship, rather than expecting it to run itself.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  6. Accommodation: inhibiting destructive responses to partner provocation
    When your partner does something hurtful or irritating, practice responding constructively rather than in kind.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  7. Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
    Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
  8. Give regular assurances of commitment
    Explicitly remind your partner of your love, commitment, and investment in the relationship.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  9. Regularly share novel and enjoyable activities
    Do new things together — not only comfortable or habitual ones.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  10. Willingness to sacrifice: building relationship-oriented decision-making
    Practice making at least one weekly decision that prioritizes the relationship over personal short-term convenience.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)

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