Coaching practices for Self Affirmation Before Evaluation

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  • Before any big evaluation my whole sense of worth narrows down to how I’ll perform in that one room, and if I bomb it I feel like I’m worthless as a person
  • I’ve got a big evaluation looming and I can already feel myself bracing to defend my whole worth on it
  • I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
  • When I just hand someone my assessment they go passive and defensive, like I’m doing something to them
  • Right before a tempting choice my head gets loud and defensive and I can’t even see my own real preferences clearly

Practices that may help

  1. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
    Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
    Power Posing Revisited
  2. Write about a value that matters to you
    Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  3. Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
    Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  4. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
    Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
  5. Affirm a core value before a high-stakes decision
    Briefly reflecting on what matters most to you before a decision increases the chance you act consistently with it.
    Identity Priming, Made Practical
  6. Affirm before receiving critical feedback
    Do a brief values reflection before reading a critical evaluation so you can take in the information rather than defend against it.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  7. Affirm a different value after a failure
    When you fail in one area, actively invest in a domain where you know you contribute.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  8. Build self-knowledge from behavioral evidence
    Ground your self-beliefs in specific past behaviors, not feelings or others’ opinions.
    Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical
  9. Affirmations
    Repeat chosen statements about who you are and what you’re committed to.
    The Miracle Morning, Made Practical
  10. Separate the act from the self
    Rate your behaviors and outcomes — never your whole self — so one failure cannot indict your entire worth.
    Unconditional Self-Acceptance

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