Coaching practices for Self Affirmation Theory as a Caregiver

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The person I’m trying to help has basically given up on themselves
• I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
• I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
• I’ve got a big evaluation looming and I can already feel myself bracing to defend my whole worth on it
• My whole identity has quietly collapsed into this one thing

Practices that may help

1. Affirm genuine strengths and effort
   Notice and name real strengths the person brings — not empty praise.
   Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
2. Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
   Claude Steele’s self-affirmation theory holds that people protect their sense of moral adequacy by reflecting on values that are genuinely important to them — and that doing so reduces defensive reactions to threats. The evidence for reducing defensiveness and improving openness to threatening information is solid; claims that brief affirmations broadly raise achievement are more contested.
3. Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
   Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
4. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
   Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
5. Write about a value that matters to you
   Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
6. Broaden your self-concept beyond one domain
   Actively maintain a multi-domain identity so no single failure can threaten your whole self-worth.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
7. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
   Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
   Power Posing Revisited
8. Tend to yourself before tending to others
   Sustainable tend-and-befriend requires that the caregiver’s own basic needs are met — otherwise helping depletes rather than regulates.
   Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical
9. Use values affirmation to counter stereotype threat
   When your social identity is under threat, a brief values reflection can protect performance.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
10. Build self-knowledge from behavioral evidence
    Ground your self-beliefs in specific past behaviors, not feelings or others’ opinions.
    Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical

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