Coaching practices for Self Determination Coaching
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The more I order myself around
- When someone I’m coaching brings me a topic, we just end up circling it and venting
- The people I coach leave fired up with a plan, but the first ordinary snag throws them and the whole thing quietly dies
- I give my team a sharp, accurate read on what’s going wrong and exactly how to fix it, and they nod and walk away
- I start each coaching conversation from scratch and never circle back to what the person said they’d do last time
Practices that may help
- Use autonomy-supportive self-talk
Coach yourself with choice and rationale, not "shoulds" and self-pressure.
Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable - Clarify the Goal with precision
Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Obstacle anticipation before close
Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Raise awareness and build responsibility simultaneously
Help the person see their situation more clearly while also connecting them to their ownership of it.
The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People - Self-Determination Theory, Made Usable
Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan) holds that durable motivation depends on three basic psychological needs being met: autonomy (acting from your own values), competence (feeling effective), and relatedness (feeling connected). Meet the needs and motivation becomes self-sustaining; thwart them and even rewarded behavior decays. The core claims are among the best-supported in motivation science. - Close the GROW loop with session review
At the start of the next session, review what was committed and what actually happened before setting a new goal.
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical - Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People - Give performers choice within practice to support autonomy
Offer self-directed options in practice — which drill, how many reps, which cue — to enhance intrinsic motivation and learning.
External Focus of Attention, Made Practical - Protect your sense of autonomy while pursuing the goal
Keep the goal yours even when a coach, boss, or partner is involved in it.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Build a concrete Will commitment
Convert the chosen option into a specific next action with a date, and ask "what will you do?" not "what will you try?"
The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Approach Motivation Coaching
Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
Clarify the Goal with precision
- Goal Orientation Coaching Habit
Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
- What Is Mean Becoming Whole Integration Coaching
Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
Obstacle anticipation before close
- Autonomy Supportive Coaching
Coach yourself with choice and rationale, not "shoulds" and self-pressure.
Use autonomy-supportive self-talk
- Coaching Goal Setting
Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
- Coaching Session Goal
Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
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