Coaching practices for Approach Motivation Coaching

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• When someone I’m coaching brings me a topic, we just end up circling it and venting
• The people I coach leave fired up with a plan, but the first ordinary snag throws them and the whole thing quietly dies
• The conversation keeps circling the same complaint without ever landing anywhere, and it slowly dawns on me that the person venting to me has never once said what they actually want to come out of this
• My coaching chats end on a warm "I’ll try to get to it" that I let slide as if it were a plan
• The moment the person I’m coaching names a couple of ideas, I jump in with "have you considered" and basically hand them my answer

Practices that may help

1. Clarify the Goal with precision
   Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
2. Obstacle anticipation before close
   Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
3. Ask "What do you want?"
   People often know what they want but haven’t said it — asking directly surfaces it and shifts from complaint to intention.
   The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
4. Build a concrete Will commitment
   Convert the chosen option into a specific next action with a date, and ask "what will you do?" not "what will you try?"
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
5. Generate Options before evaluating any
   Brainstorm all possible paths before judging — then the coachee, not the coach, narrows them.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
6. Give performers choice within practice to support autonomy
   Offer self-directed options in practice — which drill, how many reps, which cue — to enhance intrinsic motivation and learning.
   External Focus of Attention, Made Practical
7. Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
   Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
8. Approach vs Avoidance Goals
   Approach goals move you toward a desired outcome ("get fit"); avoidance goals move you away from a feared one ("stop being lazy"). A substantial body of research finds that approach-framed goals are associated with better well-being, persistence, and performance — though avoidance framing can be useful when a threat is genuinely salient.
9. Close the GROW loop with session review
   At the start of the next session, review what was committed and what actually happened before setting a new goal.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
10. Powerful open questions at every stage
    Ask questions that invite thinking, not ones that suggest answers — and ask more than you tell.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical

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