Coaching practices for Self Responsibility

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep waiting for someone else to fix my situation or change so things get better
• There’s a decision I keep half-defending with a fog of "well, the circumstances, the other people, what else could I have done"
• I keep saying "they make me," "I have no choice," "I had to"
• When something goes wrong around me I automatically assume it’s my fault
• When something goes wrong my first move is to find whose fault it was, and being right about that leaves me stuck

Practices that may help

1. The practice of self-responsibility
   Own that you are the author of your choices, actions, and the fulfillment of your wants.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
2. Take radical responsibility for your choices
   Own every choice completely — including its unintended consequences and the unchosen conditions within which you chose.
   Existentialism and Radical Choice
3. Habit 1: Be proactive
   Take responsibility for your responses; act on what you can control, not on what happens to you.
   The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Made Practical
4. Personalization and self-blame
   Take excessive personal responsibility for negative events that were partly or wholly outside your control.
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
5. Take extreme ownership of outcomes — even ones that aren’t your fault
   Claiming ownership of everything in your domain — even external failures — is the fastest path to fixing them.
   Discipline Equals Freedom: Jocko Willink's Framework
6. Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others
   Apply the same standards of fairness to yourself that you would to someone you respect.
   FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
7. Spot bad faith in yourself
   Notice when you are treating yourself as a thing determined by role, instinct, or expectation — and claim the choice.
   Existentialism and Radical Choice
8. The practice of living consciously
   Bring awareness to what you are doing and seeing, rather than acting on autopilot or avoidance.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
9. Apply the razor to yourself
   Extend to your own past actions the same charitable interpretation you give others.
   Hanlon's Razor: Never Attribute to Malice What Stupidity Can Explain
10. Develop your own compass for decisions
    Build a personal value system that guides decisions independently of social approval.
    Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical

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