Coaching practices for Seligman S Perma Model as a Caregiver

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I keep pouring myself into caring for everyone around me while running on empty, and instead of feeling connected it just leaves me hollowed out
  • I keep hitting my targets and checking the boxes, and it keeps leaving me weirdly hollow
  • Something about my life feels off and I genuinely can’t name what
  • On paper my life looks successful
  • I’m warm and patient with the people I love but the moment it’s a stranger or someone serving me, that care just switches off

Practices that may help

  1. Seligman’s PERMA Model, Made Practical
    Martin Seligman’s PERMA model identifies five pillars of well-being: Positive Emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. Unlike happiness models that treat well-being as a single variable, PERMA argues these five elements are each intrinsically valued and each independently improvable. Several PERMA-targeted interventions have randomized-trial support; others are mechanistically grounded with less direct evidence.
  2. Positive Psychology, Made Practical
    Martin Seligman’s positive psychology studies what makes life worth living, organized around the PERMA model — Positive emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. Several of its signature interventions, including three good things, the gratitude visit, and using signature strengths, have genuine randomized-trial support for raising well-being and lowering depressive symptoms.
  3. Tend to yourself before tending to others
    Sustainable tend-and-befriend requires that the caregiver’s own basic needs are met — otherwise helping depletes rather than regulates.
    Tend-and-Befriend, Made Practical
  4. Build meaning through contribution rather than achievement (meaning pillar)
    Orient your work toward what it does for others, not just what it earns you.
    Seligman’s PERMA Model, Made Practical
  5. Run a PERMA audit of your current well-being
    Rate each of the five PERMA pillars to find which is currently limiting your overall flourishing.
    Seligman’s PERMA Model, Made Practical
  6. Audit your life against PERMA
    Check well-being across all five pillars — emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning, accomplishment.
    Positive Psychology, Made Practical
  7. The concentric-circle extension of ren
    Deliberately extend the quality of care you have for those closest to you toward more distant others.
    Confucian Self-Cultivation: The Mencius Approach
  8. Compassionate Imagery: The Compassionate Image and Safe Place
    Develop a vivid compassionate figure in imagination whose care you can access during distress.
    Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
  9. Track mastery progress, not just outcomes (accomplishment pillar)
    Measure your growth in capability over time, not only whether you hit your targets.
    Seligman’s PERMA Model, Made Practical
  10. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
    Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)

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