Coaching practices for Shadow Work After a Loss

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on
• I’ve kept this loss a secret because I’m bracing for someone to brush it off, but holding it in is its own weight
• Something I built my life around has ended
• It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
• My memories of them and of how it happened come at me in scattered, jagged pieces with no order to them, and I keep replaying the end on a loop

Practices that may help

1. Shadow Work
   Shadow work is the process of becoming aware of — and integrating — the parts of yourself you have disowned, suppressed, or never examined: the traits, impulses, and capabilities you hide from others and from yourself. Rooted in Jungian psychology, it is a clinically used framework rather than a rigorously trialed intervention; the mechanistic rationale is strong and aligns with modern emotion regulation and self-concept research.
2. Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
   Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
3. Practice speaking about the loss to people outside your immediate circle
   Gradually widen the circle of people who know about the loss and can offer recognition.
   Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical
4. Reframing loss as transformation
   When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
   Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
5. Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
   Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
6. Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
   Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
7. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
   When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
   Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
8. Identify and address secondary stressors
   Name the practical, identity, and relational challenges the loss has created — and work on them as restoration.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
9. The integration letter to a disowned part
   Write directly to the trait, impulse, or capacity you most want to disown — then listen for its response.
   Shadow Work
10. Create private rituals for losses that have no public ceremony
    Design your own mourning practice for a loss that comes with no cultural script.
    Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical

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