Coaching practices for Should I Teach My Kid How to Lie
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- My kid has started hiding mistakes and bracing like they’re in trouble before I’ve even said anything, and I think it’s because my first reaction to a spill or a broken thing is always the accusation
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
- My kid won’t put on the coat, won’t pack the lunch, and every fiber of me wants to swoop in and save them from the small fallout
- I keep telling my kid they’re so smart, so gifted
Practices that may help
- Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Praise process, not innate ability
Acknowledge effort, strategy, and choices rather than "you’re so smart".
Growth Mindset: The Honest Version - Teach that Green is the goal, not the only acceptable zone
All zones are normal; the goal is knowing which zone a situation calls for and how to get there.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Talk with your child about their day and interests
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Focus on solutions, not blame
Ask "What can we do to fix this?" rather than "Why did you do that?" — one opens, the other closes.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
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Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
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Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
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