Coaching practices for How to Tell Your Child She Smells Without Hurting Her Feelings
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- My kid is sobbing about something that seems so small, and every instinct in me wants to explain why it’s not a big deal
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- My child has these huge feelings with no words for them
- My kid melts down and my instinct is to fix it or shut it down fast, and the tantrum just gets bigger
Practices that may help
- Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Help the child label the emotion with words
Naming the feeling turns a body sensation into something the child can think about.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
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Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
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Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
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Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
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