Coaching practices for Specific Feedback Skill
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- When someone critiques my work I either avoid asking for it at all, or I fixate on whether it means I’m bad at this
- I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
- I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
- When someone does something genuinely great I just toss off a "nice work" and move on, and it barely registers
- I put in hours alone and just assume I’m getting better, but nobody’s telling me what I’m doing wrong in the moment
Practices that may help
- Feedback: extract the signal, ignore the noise
Seek feedback fast, but use the part that actually tells you how to improve.
Ultralearning: Aggressive, Self-Directed Learning - Invite a response after delivering SBI
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
The SBI model (Situation–Behavior–Impact), developed by the Center for Creative Leadership, structures feedback by anchoring it to an observable moment, describing the behavior seen rather than inferring motive, and naming the actual impact. This reduces defensiveness and attribution errors; the model is established clinical practice in leadership development, though direct RCT comparisons to other feedback approaches are limited. - Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Get immediate, specific feedback
Shorten the gap between an attempt and knowing exactly what was wrong.
Deliberate Practice, Not Just Practice - Add a forward-looking request to SBI
Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical - Use specific verbal affirmation from credible sources
Seek out specific, skill-referenced feedback from people who have seen you perform — not generic encouragement.
Mastery Experiences - Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical - Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
The Johari Window
Related concerns
- Behavior Vs Person Feedback
Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
- How To Take Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
Invite a response after delivering SBI
- Specific Feedback
Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
- The Sbi Feedback Model For My Teenager
The SBI model (Situation–Behavior–Impact), developed by the Center for Creative Leadership, structures feedback by anchoring it to an observable moment, describing the behavior seen rather than inferring motive, and naming the actual impact. This reduces defensiveness and attribution errors; the model is established clinical practice in leadership development, though direct RCT comparisons to other feedback approaches are limited.
- When To Give Feedback
Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
- Accurate Feedback
Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
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