Coaching practices for Steele vs Generic Self Affirmation

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  • Before any big evaluation my whole sense of worth narrows down to how I’ll perform in that one room, and if I bomb it I feel like I’m worthless as a person
  • I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
  • I’ve got a big evaluation looming and I can already feel myself bracing to defend my whole worth on it
  • Walking into this test I can feel the weight of proving that people like me can do it, and that pressure eats up so much of my head that I choke on the very thing I’m most afraid of confirming about my group.
  • I’ve tried saying the big confident lines in the mirror and they just ring hollow

Practices that may help

  1. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
    Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
    Power Posing Revisited
  2. Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
    Claude Steele’s self-affirmation theory holds that people protect their sense of moral adequacy by reflecting on values that are genuinely important to them — and that doing so reduces defensive reactions to threats. The evidence for reducing defensiveness and improving openness to threatening information is solid; claims that brief affirmations broadly raise achievement are more contested.
  3. Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
    Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  4. Write about a value that matters to you
    Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  5. Use values affirmation to counter stereotype threat
    When your social identity is under threat, a brief values reflection can protect performance.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  6. Affirmations
    Repeat chosen statements about who you are and what you’re committed to.
    The Miracle Morning, Made Practical
  7. Map your value hierarchy
    Rank what you most value so you can draw on the strongest affirmation when you need it.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  8. The practice of self-acceptance
    Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  9. Build self-knowledge from behavioral evidence
    Ground your self-beliefs in specific past behaviors, not feelings or others’ opinions.
    Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical
  10. Shift the goal from high self-esteem to authentic self-regard
    Stop trying to feel good about yourself and start aiming for honest, compassionate self-knowledge.
    Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem

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