Coaching practices for Tailor Your Message
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My pitch keeps falling flat with certain people, and I’m starting to think it’s because I’m always selling the exciting upside to someone who only really cares about not losing what they already have.
- I keep making what feels to me like an obviously compelling case and watching it bounce right off this person
- I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content
- Before I even open my mouth I can’t tell whether this person is actually weighing what I say or just half-listening and waiting for the headline
- I have something honest I need to tell someone, and I’m stuck on how to say it
Practices that may help
- Frame the goal as prevention or promotion
Match the message to whether the person is chasing gains or guarding against losses.
The Framing Effect - Communicate across value-system differences
Translate your message into the motivational language of the person you’re trying to reach.
Spiral Dynamics, Made Practical - Adapt to your manager’s communication style
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Diagnose which route your audience is on before you speak
Check motivation and capacity before choosing how to frame your message.
Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical - Adapt how you deliver feedback to the person’s style
Deliver the same honest feedback in the form the other person can actually hear it.
The Platinum Rule - Create a privileged moment — a context of undivided focus
Secure genuine attention before delivering your most important message.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Use language mirroring in writing — match their words, not yours
When someone describes a problem in their own words, use those words — not your substitute vocabulary.
Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical - Match your message frame to the audience’s motivation type
Promotion-focused audiences respond to gains; prevention-focused ones respond to avoiding losses.
Elaboration Likelihood Model, Made Practical - Channel attention to the relevant concept before the ask
Briefly focus the audience on a concept that makes your core message naturally follow.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Place your message in a context that evokes the right associations
Context — physical, digital, or conversational — frames how a message is received before the first word.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Message Framing Persuasion
The framing effect is the finding that how a choice is presented — as a gain or a loss, a glass half full or half empty — changes which option people pick, even when the underlying facts are identical. It’s a well-replicated decision-making effect rooted in loss aversion, and it’s why reframing an offer can change the answer without changing the substance.
- Prospect Theory Messaging
Promotion-focused audiences respond to gains; prevention-focused ones respond to avoiding losses.
Match your message frame to the audience’s motivation type
- Attention Priming Persuasion
Briefly focus the audience on a concept that makes your core message naturally follow.
Channel attention to the relevant concept before the ask
- How To Frame A Message
Screening and early-warning messages consistently perform better when framed as losses rather than gains.
Apply loss frames to detection and risk-awareness messages
- Pre Expose Ideas Persuasion
Pre-suasion, Robert Cialdini’s term, is the practice of directing attention to a concept or feeling immediately before a message so that the audience is primed to receive it favorably. The core finding is that what people are thinking about just before a message reshapes how they interpret it — making the moment before you speak as important as the message itself.
- Prospect Theory Communication
With high-assertiveness, high-responsiveness people, match their enthusiasm and connect to the larger story.
Adapt to Expressives: lead with energy, vision, and big picture
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