Coaching practices for The Charisma Myth When Burned Out

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• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• I say one slightly awkward thing and then completely unravel
• Carrying everyone else’s anxiety and conflict has hollowed me out
• When I walk into a room with people who outrank me I seem to shrink
• By the time I get to the people who matter I’ve got nothing left to give them

Practices that may help

1. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
2. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
3. Recover gracefully from awkward moments
   How you handle a slip-up signals more about your status than the slip itself.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
4. Build sanctuaries for renewal outside the system
   Maintain relationships and practices outside the organizational system that restore perspective and capacity.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
5. Convey power
   Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
6. Build emotional energy rituals to buffer against daily depletion
   Emotional energy is the quality of emotional availability you bring to work and relationships — and it is trainable through brief daily rituals.
   Energy Management, Not Time Management
7. Surf motivation waves rather than engineering baseline motivation
   Motivation is unreliable and peaks are temporary — use high-motivation moments to redesign prompts and ability, not just to behave better.
   The Fogg Behavior Model, Made Practical
8. Map how your strengths distort under stress
   Identify the "overuse" and "underuse" of each signature strength — how they show up when you’re at your worst.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
9. Examining the gap between persona and self
   Map who you perform for others versus who you experience yourself as in private — the gap is shadow territory.
   Shadow Work
10. Energy management from your extraversion score
    Calibrate social load and recovery time to your actual extraversion level rather than performing the energy you do not have.
    The Big Five Personality Model

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