Coaching practices for The Inner Game Quieting Self 1 for My Teenager

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The instant my mind has nothing to hold onto it floods with instructions and second-guessing
• While I’m actually performing there’s this running commentary telling me I’m blowing it, and I take every word of it as fact in the moment
• One part of me wants out, another part won’t let me, and they just war with each other on a loop
• I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
• There’s a voice in my head that won’t stop telling me I’m not enough and I’m selfish, and the harder I try to shut it up the louder it gets

Practices that may help

1. The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
   Timothy Gallwey’s Inner Game framework distinguishes Self 1 — the critical, instructing voice that interferes with performance — from Self 2, the body’s natural learning intelligence. Performance improves not by trying harder but by reducing Self 1’s interference so Self 2 can perform. The model is widely applied in coaching, athletics, and business; controlled-trial evidence is limited but the underlying mechanisms align with research on choking, explicit monitoring, and attentional redirection.
2. Give Self 2 a concrete focus anchor
   Occupy Self 1 with a specific sensory observation task so it stops issuing unhelpful instructions.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
3. Identify your Self 1 interference in real time
   Notice when your inner critic is instructing, judging, or catastrophizing — and name it as Self 1.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
4. Working with Multiple Selves (Chair Work in CFT)
   Give voice to different internal parts — the critic, the anxious self, the compassionate self — to understand and change the dialogue.
   Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
5. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
   Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
6. The inner critic dialogue
   Give the inner critic a voice on paper and then respond — the goal is dialogue, not silencing.
   Shadow Work
7. Use the performance-feedback loop without Self 1
   Treat every outcome as information, not a verdict — adjust without judging.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
8. Find the challenge that produces full engagement
   Match the difficulty of what you are practicing to what fully engages your attention without overwhelming it.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
9. Noticing the inner voice
   Recognize the constant mental narrator — and the fact that you are the one hearing it.
   The Untethered Soul, In Practice
10. Quieting the commentary track
    Notice the layer of continuous inner commentary on experience and practise resting in the experience itself.
    Pu: Taoist Simplicity and the Uncarved Block

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