Coaching practices for The Nurtured Heart Approach Howard Glasser with My Partner
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- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
- We both understand our pattern perfectly by now
- There are certain moments
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- I want to actually tell my partner how scared I am of losing them, in a real way and not in the middle of a fight
Practices that may help
- The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart Approach holds that intense, challenging children are energized children who have learned that misbehavior is the most reliable way to get adult attention and engagement. The method systematically reverses that pattern by delivering rich, specific recognition for positive moments and refusing to energize negative behavior. Evidence is primarily clinical and observational — RCTs are limited, but teacher and parent studies show meaningful reductions in behavioral referrals and improved classroom climate. - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Create corrective emotional experiences together
The goal is not to understand the pattern intellectually -- it is to have a new emotional experience of safety within it.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Have a Hold Me Tight conversation
Sue Johnson's structured conversation for reaching past defensiveness to the attachment need underneath.
Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair - Choose and co-create secure relationships
Move toward partners and dynamics that reward openness, and build security together.
Attachment Theory, Made Usable - Build shared rituals that update your map
Create recurring moments designed to share inner worlds, not just coordinate schedules.
Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World - Behavioral confirmation audit: how are you treating your partner?
Regularly examine whether your daily behavior toward your partner confirms their ideal self or their non-ideal self.
The Michelangelo Phenomenon: How Partners Sculpt Each Other - Practise including the other person in your self-concept
Close relationships develop when you genuinely incorporate the other’s perspectives and resources into how you think — not just spend time with them.
Self-Expansion Model: How Relationships Grow (and Stagnate) Us
Related concerns
- The Nurtured Heart Approach Howard Glasser With Friends
Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart Approach holds that intense, challenging children are energized children who have learned that misbehavior is the most reliable way to get adult attention and engagement. The method systematically reverses that pattern by delivering rich, specific recognition for positive moments and refusing to energize negative behavior. Evidence is primarily clinical and observational — RCTs are limited, but teacher and parent studies show meaningful reductions in behavioral referrals and improved classroom climate.
- The Nurtured Heart Approach Howard Glasser With My Team
Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart Approach holds that intense, challenging children are energized children who have learned that misbehavior is the most reliable way to get adult attention and engagement. The method systematically reverses that pattern by delivering rich, specific recognition for positive moments and refusing to energize negative behavior. Evidence is primarily clinical and observational — RCTs are limited, but teacher and parent studies show meaningful reductions in behavioral referrals and improved classroom climate.
- Howard Glasser Intense Children
Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart Approach holds that intense, challenging children are energized children who have learned that misbehavior is the most reliable way to get adult attention and engagement. The method systematically reverses that pattern by delivering rich, specific recognition for positive moments and refusing to energize negative behavior. Evidence is primarily clinical and observational — RCTs are limited, but teacher and parent studies show meaningful reductions in behavioral referrals and improved classroom climate.
- Nurtured Heart Approach
Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart Approach holds that intense, challenging children are energized children who have learned that misbehavior is the most reliable way to get adult attention and engagement. The method systematically reverses that pattern by delivering rich, specific recognition for positive moments and refusing to energize negative behavior. Evidence is primarily clinical and observational — RCTs are limited, but teacher and parent studies show meaningful reductions in behavioral referrals and improved classroom climate.
- Nurtured Heart Consequence
A short, calm time-out ends the incident without energizing it.
Use a brief reset rather than escalating consequences
- Nurtured Heart Reset
A short, calm time-out ends the incident without energizing it.
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