Coaching practices for The One Thing for My Teenager
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
- My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
- I have ten things screaming for my attention and I treat them all as equally urgent, so I default to whatever’s loudest or easiest
- I keep meaning to spend real one-on-one time with my kid but it gets squeezed out by everything else, and I think the unpredictability is part of why they keep grabbing at me
- There are a few situations that go badly every single time
Practices that may help
- Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Ask the Focusing Question
“What’s the ONE thing I can do such that by doing it everything else becomes easier or unnecessary?”
The ONE Thing, Made Practical - Schedule and protect special time as a non-negotiable
Put it in the calendar, name it, and keep the appointment.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Give age-appropriate autonomy within non-negotiable limits
Let the child choose within the boundaries you set — the choice builds competence; the boundary provides safety.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Give clear, calm, single instructions
One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
Related concerns
- The One Thing As A Parent
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
- How Can We Prepare Our Child For The Arrival Of Adopted Siblings
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
- Predictable Parenting Routine
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Plan behavior management strategies in advance
- Take Time For Training Parenting
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
- The Power Of Full Engagement As A Parent
Loehr and Schwartz argue that performance depends on managing energy, not time: you have physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual energy, and the key is oscillating between full engagement and real recovery rather than pushing linearly. The four-dimensions model is a practitioner framework, but its building blocks — recovery, breaks, sleep, exercise, and meaning — each have their own real support.
- The Power Of Full Engagement For My Teenager
Loehr and Schwartz argue that performance depends on managing energy, not time: you have physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual energy, and the key is oscillating between full engagement and real recovery rather than pushing linearly. The four-dimensions model is a practitioner framework, but its building blocks — recovery, breaks, sleep, exercise, and meaning — each have their own real support.
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