Coaching practices for The Sbi Feedback Model Before Bed

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  • I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
  • Looking at my own numbers has started to feel like getting audited
  • When I look back on my day it’s either all the ways I screwed up or a vague "it was fine"
  • I blurt out corrections in the heat of the moment, often right in front of other people, and instead of taking it in they just get humiliated and dig in
  • I tell someone what went wrong but never say what I actually want instead, so they walk away knowing they messed up with no idea what "right" looks like

Practices that may help

  1. The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
    The SBI model (Situation–Behavior–Impact), developed by the Center for Creative Leadership, structures feedback by anchoring it to an observable moment, describing the behavior seen rather than inferring motive, and naming the actual impact. This reduces defensiveness and attribution errors; the model is established clinical practice in leadership development, though direct RCT comparisons to other feedback approaches are limited.
  2. Invite a response after delivering SBI
    Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
  3. Create a feedback acknowledgment ritual to close each tracking cycle
    A brief, consistent closing ritual after reviewing behavioral data anchors the feedback loop and prevents it from becoming pure surveillance.
    Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
  4. The three-question evening review
    Ask three questions before sleep: What did I do wrong? What did I succeed at? What could I have done better?
    The Pythagorean Evening Review
  5. Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
    Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
  6. Add a forward-looking request to SBI
    Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
  7. Ask yourself feedforward questions as a daily reflection practice
    Replace "what did I do wrong today?" with "what will I do differently tomorrow?"
    Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
  8. End every review with a single resolved next action
    The review is incomplete until you name one specific thing you will do differently tomorrow.
    The Pythagorean Evening Review
  9. Anchor feedback to a specific situation
    Name the exact time and place before you say anything else.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
  10. USA journaling: write your way to acceptance
    After a failure or rejection, write out the ABC chain and the USA disputation before bed.
    Unconditional Self-Acceptance

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