Coaching practices for The Third Alternative at Work
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- We shook hands on the idea feeling great, then a week later it fell apart because it turned out each of us had pictured something completely different
- We solve the immediate thing but the same ugly dynamic underneath stays exactly the same, so the next disagreement plays out identically
- The second either of us names a solution, the other instantly shoots it down with a counter
- I’d settled on A over B, and then a third option showed up and somehow flipped me back to B
- We’re stuck — they want one thing, I want another, and the best we ever do is split the difference and both walk away a little unhappy, when I have a nagging sense there’s a better answer neither of us has found.
Practices that may help
- The Third Alternative, Made Practical
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining. - Make the third alternative tangible with a prototype or model
Turn an abstract third-alternative idea into something both parties can react to together.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Transform the relationship, not just the issue
Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Define what success looks like together, before proposing solutions
Agree on the criteria a good solution must meet before either side proposes anything.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Check whether a third option is changing your view of the original two
If a new option makes you change your preference between existing options, ask whether the new option should have that power.
The Decoy Effect — How an Irrelevant Option Changes Your Choice - Habit 6: Synergize
Combine differences so the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Made Practical - The Rule of Three for Productivity, Made Practical
Chris Bailey’s Rule of Three is a simple planning practice: at the start of each day (and week), identify three outcomes you want to achieve — not a task list, but specific results. It is a practitioner system with no formal trials; its value comes from forcing a distinction between tasks and outcomes and reducing the cognitive overhead of open-ended planning. The number three is a heuristic aligned with working-memory research, not a precisely studied threshold. - Apply three good things to work contexts specifically
Use the exercise to rewire what you notice about your work day — contribution, competence, and collaboration.
Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice - Draft three genuinely different five-year plans
Sketch three distinct five-year lives — not variations on the same theme, but genuinely different directions.
Odyssey Plans: Designing Three Alternative Futures - Ask "Are you willing to find a solution better than either of us has thought of?"
Open the conversation with a single question that resets both parties from adversaries to co-creators.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical
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The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- Third Alternative Covey
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- The Third Alternative During A Big Change
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- The Third Alternative With My Team
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- Third Alternative Question
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- The Third Alternative With My Partner
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
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