Coaching practices for Third Alternative Question
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’d settled on A over B, and then a third option showed up and somehow flipped me back to B
- We shook hands on the idea feeling great, then a week later it fell apart because it turned out each of us had pictured something completely different
- I keep trying to answer one giant fuzzy question
- We’re about to sit down to hash this out and I can already feel us both arriving armed, each braced to win our version
- The second either of us names a solution, the other instantly shoots it down with a counter
Practices that may help
- The Third Alternative, Made Practical
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining. - Check whether a third option is changing your view of the original two
If a new option makes you change your preference between existing options, ask whether the new option should have that power.
The Decoy Effect — How an Irrelevant Option Changes Your Choice - Make the third alternative tangible with a prototype or model
Turn an abstract third-alternative idea into something both parties can react to together.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Decompose the target attribute into components before judging
Break a hard question into its component parts and answer each one directly, rather than letting a heuristic answer the whole.
Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question - Ask "Are you willing to find a solution better than either of us has thought of?"
Open the conversation with a single question that resets both parties from adversaries to co-creators.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Define what success looks like together, before proposing solutions
Agree on the criteria a good solution must meet before either side proposes anything.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Concept fan: map the solution space before picking a direction
Expand from specific solutions to the broader concept behind them, then generate alternatives at the concept level.
Lateral Thinking, Made Practical - Substitute
Ask: what component, material, person, process, or rule could be swapped for something different?
SCAMPER: A Systematic Creativity Technique - Transform the relationship, not just the issue
Use each conflict as an opportunity to raise the quality of the relationship itself.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Name the question your brain is actually answering
When you reach a quick judgment, ask: "What question did I actually just answer?"
Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question
Related concerns
- Third Alternative
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- The Third Alternative At Work
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- Third Alternative Covey
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- The Third Alternative During A Big Change
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- The Third Alternative With My Partner
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
- The Third Alternative With My Team
The Third Alternative is Stephen Covey’s framework for resolving conflicts not by splitting the difference but by co-creating a solution neither side imagined alone — one that fully meets the deeper needs of both parties. It requires genuine curiosity about the other side’s interests rather than a defense of positions, and rests on integrative negotiation research that consistently finds this approach outperforms positional bargaining.
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