Coaching practices for Tibetan Buddhism Breathing Practice
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve heard of this breathing-in-the-pain practice but it stays a vague idea in my head
- My whole instinct is to push pain away and grab at anything that feels good, and I’m tired of how walled-off that makes me
- I’ve been fighting and trying to push away my own pain and it only tightens its grip
- When I try to breathe in suffering from a raw, already-shaky place it just pulls me under rather than opening me
- Every time I get near a certain kind of suffering in this practice I notice myself flinch and want to stop or look away
Practices that may help
- Work with the classical two-breath texture
Breathe in something hot, dark, and heavy; breathe out something cool, bright, and spacious.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Tonglen: sending and taking
Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Prepare for tonglen with a brief equanimity grounding
Entering tonglen from a grounded, spacious state makes the practice sustainable rather than destabilising.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
Tonglen ("taking and sending") is a Tibetan Buddhist compassion practice in which the practitioner breathes in suffering — their own or another’s — and breathes out relief, ease, and goodwill. It works by deliberately moving toward pain rather than away from it, which gradually reduces the fear of suffering and expands the capacity for compassion. Evidence is largely clinical and mechanistic; direct RCTs on tonglen specifically are sparse, though compassion training more broadly shows meaningful effects. - Investigate resistance to the practice honestly
The impulse not to breathe in suffering is information about where your self-protective contraction lives.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Informal counting — using the practice during ordinary tasks
Apply breath counting for 10–20 breaths during stressful transitions or idle moments in the day.
Breath Counting Meditation - Use flash tonglen in the moment of encountering suffering
A single in-breath of someone’s pain and an out-breath of goodwill is a complete act of tonglen.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Group and retreats — the Zen sesshin context
Understand the role of structured retreat periods in deepening breath counting beyond what daily practice alone achieves.
Breath Counting Meditation - Breath Counting Meditation
Breath counting (susokukan in Japanese Zen) is a focused-attention practice in which you silently count each exhale from one to ten, then restart, using the count to anchor attention and quickly detect when the mind has wandered. It is one of the oldest formalized attention-training methods; its mechanism aligns well with focused-attention research, though breath counting as an isolated practice has rarely been trialed separately.
Related concerns
- Breathing In Suffering Meditation
Breathe in something hot, dark, and heavy; breathe out something cool, bright, and spacious.
Work with the classical two-breath texture
- Brief Tonglen Daily Life
A single in-breath of someone’s pain and an out-breath of goodwill is a complete act of tonglen.
Use flash tonglen in the moment of encountering suffering
- Directed Tonglen Practice
Tonglen ("taking and sending") is a Tibetan Buddhist compassion practice in which the practitioner breathes in suffering — their own or another’s — and breathes out relief, ease, and goodwill. It works by deliberately moving toward pain rather than away from it, which gradually reduces the fear of suffering and expands the capacity for compassion. Evidence is largely clinical and mechanistic; direct RCTs on tonglen specifically are sparse, though compassion training more broadly shows meaningful effects.
- Flash Tonglen
A single in-breath of someone’s pain and an out-breath of goodwill is a complete act of tonglen.
- Hot Dark Heavy Tonglen
Breathe in something hot, dark, and heavy; breathe out something cool, bright, and spacious.
- How To Practice Tonglen Meditation
Tonglen ("taking and sending") is a Tibetan Buddhist compassion practice in which the practitioner breathes in suffering — their own or another’s — and breathes out relief, ease, and goodwill. It works by deliberately moving toward pain rather than away from it, which gradually reduces the fear of suffering and expands the capacity for compassion. Evidence is largely clinical and mechanistic; direct RCTs on tonglen specifically are sparse, though compassion training more broadly shows meaningful effects.
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