Coaching practices for Triple P Discipline Strategies

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I lose my temper with my kid and then feel sick about it for hours
• My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
• When my kid messes up I just grab whatever punishment is handy
• There are a few situations that go badly every single time
• I end up saying the same thing five times, louder each time, until I’m basically yelling before anything happens

Practices that may help

1. Manage your own emotional state before responding
   A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
2. Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
   Triple P — Positive Parenting Program — is a multilevel evidence-based parenting support system developed by Matthew Sanders at the University of Queensland. It teaches positive relationship skills, proactive management strategies, and calm responses to misbehavior. Multiple meta-analyses and RCTs support its effectiveness for reducing child behavior problems and parent stress, making it one of the most rigorously evaluated parenting programs in the world.
3. Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
   Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
4. Use logical consequences that fit the behavior
   A consequence that is directly connected to the behavior teaches cause and effect instead of just imposing discomfort.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
5. Plan behavior management strategies in advance
   Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
6. Give clear, calm, single instructions
   One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
7. Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
   Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
8. Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
   Positive Discipline, developed by Jane Nelsen and based on Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs’s work, is a parenting and classroom approach that is simultaneously kind and firm — neither permissive nor punitive. Its central premise is that children do better when they feel a sense of belonging and significance, and that most misbehavior is an ineffective attempt to achieve one of these. The approach has strong clinical adoption and is consistent with authoritative parenting research, though controlled trials on the specific Positive Discipline curriculum are limited.
9. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
10. Use family meetings to solve problems together
    When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)

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