What is Codependency Worksheet? 10 Coaching Practices to Try

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Practices that may help

1. Use a challenging beliefs worksheet to work a stuck point completely
   The CPT challenging beliefs worksheet is a structured, written process for examining one stuck point at a time.
   Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD
2. The Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle, Explained
   The pursuer-withdrawer cycle is a relationship distress pattern where one partner escalates bids for connection while the other retreats — each move intensifying the other’s fear. Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) treats it as the primary "demon dialogue" and shows that naming the cycle as a shared enemy, then speaking from underlying attachment needs rather than surface protest, is the move that breaks it.
3. Identify and name your negative cycle
   Every stuck couple has a predictable escalation pattern -- naming it lets you step outside it.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
4. Excavating the underlying needs on both sides
   Find what the demand and the withdrawal are each protecting — and address those needs directly.
   The Demand-Withdraw Pattern: Breaking the Pursue-Retreat Cycle
5. Identifying and challenging dysfunctional coping modes
   Spot when you’re in surrender, avoidance, or overcompensation mode — and the schema need underneath it.
   Schema Therapy: Healing Early Maladaptive Beliefs
6. Thought records
   A structured worksheet that captures situation, thought, emotion, evidence, and a balanced response.
   Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Made Practical
7. Naming the cycle out loud together
   Learn to narrate the demand-withdraw cycle while it is happening rather than after.
   The Demand-Withdraw Pattern: Breaking the Pursue-Retreat Cycle
8. Understand the cycle you’re both in -- not just what your partner does
   The anxious-avoidant cycle is a loop both partners create together, not a problem one person causes.
   The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why Opposites Attract and Then Struggle
9. Identifying your role in the cycle
   Honestly map whether you are primarily a demander or a withdrawer — and what your partner’s role is.
   The Demand-Withdraw Pattern: Breaking the Pursue-Retreat Cycle
10. Recognize your demon dialogue -- the negative cycle running your relationship
    Every stuck couple has a predictable negative loop; naming it together is the first step out.
    Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love

Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• When I try to untangle one of these convictions in my head it just spins→
• We have the exact same fight on a loop→
• We keep agreeing to stop the pushing and the shutting-down, and for a few days it holds, but then something sets it off and we’re right back in it→
• I keep noticing the same move→
• When I’m upset it’s all just one big formless cloud of bad→

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