Coaching practices for We're Haggling Issue by Issue Splitting the Difference on Each One and It's Leaving Us Both Worse Off I Can't See That They Barely Care About the Thing I'd Fight Hardest for So I Keep Conceding Evenly Instead of Trading What's Cheap for Me to Give for What I Actually Need

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• We’re haggling issue by issue, splitting the difference on each one, and it’s leaving us both worse off
• We’ve got several things on the table and we keep splitting each one right down the middle, leaving us both half-satisfied on everything
• There are several things on the table here, and some matter way more to me than others
• We’re completely deadlocked on the one number
• The whole thing has collapsed down to one number and we’re just staring each other down over price, so whatever I gain they lose

Practices that may help

1. Trade across issues where each side has different priorities
   Give the counterpart what they care most about; get what you care most about — logrolling is only possible when interests differ.
   Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
2. Trade across differing priorities
   Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
3. Logroll by trading issues of unequal importance
   Concede on what matters less to you in exchange for gains on what matters more.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
4. Expand the ZOPA by adding issues to the negotiation
   When you’re stuck on a single issue, adding more issues often creates room for trades that satisfy both sides.
   ZOPA: The Zone of Possible Agreement
5. Add issues to expand the pie
   Bring more variables in — timing, scope, future work — so there’s more to trade.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
6. Probe for interests, not positions
   Ask why the other side wants what they say they want before responding to what they say.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
7. Model synergy: ask "what would a solution have to look like to address both?"
   Use the agreed criteria as a design brief and generate solutions that meet all of them.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
8. Separate the people from the problem
   Address relationship concerns and substantive issues in different registers — treating people well and the problem hard.
   Principled Negotiation, Made Practical
9. Collaborating (assertive and cooperative)
   Work the underlying interests until you find a solution that genuinely meets both sides’ needs.
   The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
10. Insist on objective criteria to evaluate options
    Agree on an independent standard — market rate, precedent, expert opinion — before applying it to the specific deal.
    Principled Negotiation, Made Practical

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