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- We’ve got several things on the table and we keep splitting each one right down the middle, leaving us both half-satisfied on everything
- There are several things on the table here, and some matter way more to me than others
- We’re haggling issue by issue, splitting the difference on each one, and it’s leaving us both worse off
- I keep butting heads with someone over what each of us wants, and we’re stuck trading positions back and forth
- I can’t get a read on what the other side actually cares about most
Practices that may help
- Trade across differing priorities
Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie - Logroll by trading issues of unequal importance
Concede on what matters less to you in exchange for gains on what matters more.
Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference - Trade across issues where each side has different priorities
Give the counterpart what they care most about; get what you care most about — logrolling is only possible when interests differ.
Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation - Using values questions to deepen a conversation
Ask "what matters most to you about this?" to surface values rather than surface preferences.
Values Card Sort - Make multiple equivalent simultaneous offers (MESOs)
Propose several package deals of equal value to you — see which the other side prefers.
Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference - Model synergy: ask "what would a solution have to look like to address both?"
Use the agreed criteria as a design brief and generate solutions that meet all of them.
The Third Alternative, Made Practical - Probe for interests, not positions
Ask why the other side wants what they say they want before responding to what they say.
Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference - Map interests for both sides before generating solutions
Write down both parties’ known and inferred interests before proposing anything — the map reveals trades that no single position could.
Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation - Mapping shared and divergent values in a relationship
Do the card sort alongside someone important to you and compare — do not assume your rankings match.
Values Card Sort - Add issues to expand the pie
Bring more variables in — timing, scope, future work — so there’s more to trade.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
Related concerns
- When Expanding The Pie Logrolling
Concede on what matters less to you in exchange for gains on what matters more.
Logroll by trading issues of unequal importance
- Trade Across Issues
Give the counterpart what they care most about; get what you care most about — logrolling is only possible when interests differ.
Trade across issues where each side has different priorities
- Add Issues Negotiation
When you’re stuck on a single issue, adding more issues often creates room for trades that satisfy both sides.
Expand the ZOPA by adding issues to the negotiation
- When Interests Vs Positions Trade On Different Priorities
Give the counterpart what they care most about; get what you care most about — logrolling is only possible when interests differ.
- Integrative Bargaining Tactics
When both sides care about the same thing — quality, reputation, timing — agreements that serve that shared interest outperform splits.
Identify compatible interests for joint gain
- Integrative Negotiation Options
When both sides care about the same thing — quality, reputation, timing — agreements that serve that shared interest outperform splits.
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