Coaching practices for When I Look at What Went Wrong This Year I Catch Myself Blaming the Timing Other People the Circumstances Anything but Me and it Feels Better but I Know That's Exactly Why Nothing Changes and I Keep Landing Here Again

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• When I look at what went wrong this year I catch myself blaming the timing, other people, the circumstances
• I keep blaming myself and vowing to just try harder, yet the same failure happens again and again no matter how much willpower I throw at it
• I keep waiting for someone else to fix my situation or change so things get better
• When something goes wrong my first explanation is always bad luck or that the deck was stacked against me, and I notice that story leaves me with nothing to do differently next time
• My team dropped the ball again and my first instinct is to point at them or at circumstances

Practices that may help

1. Spend more time on "what did not go well" than on what did
   Failure analysis contains the most actionable information in any honest review.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
2. Distinguish system causes from individual causes in the analysis
   Most failures have system causes and individual causes; fixing only the individual leaves the system to produce the same result again.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
3. The practice of self-responsibility
   Own that you are the author of your choices, actions, and the fulfillment of your wants.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
4. Reframe outcomes toward effort and strategy
   After a result, attribute it to actions you took (or can change) rather than to fixed luck or fate.
   Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency
5. Take extreme ownership
   When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
6. Go deep on "what went well" — extract the recipe, not just the win
   A win recorded but not analyzed produces no transferable knowledge — identify what specifically caused it.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
7. Drive all blames into one
   When conflict arises, examine how self-grasping is the root, rather than blaming the other person.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
8. Personalization and self-blame
   Take excessive personal responsibility for negative events that were partly or wholly outside your control.
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
9. Move from blame to contribution
   Ask how each side contributed to the situation instead of who is at fault.
   Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
10. Identify the three Ps in your explanation
    Check whether your explanation of a setback is permanent, pervasive, or personal — and how accurate each is.
    Learned Optimism: Seligman’s ABCDE Method

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