Coaching practices for I Pass Real Suffering All Day the Person on the Street a Coworker Clearly Struggling and I Just Look Away and Keep Moving and I Want a Single Breath I Can Take Right There in the Moment to Turn Toward it Instead of Past it

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• I pass real suffering all day
• Someone I love is suffering and there is nothing I can actually do to fix it, and that helplessness is unbearable
• Something in me skips straight past how much this hurts
• On top of the actual problem there’s this lonely conviction that I’m the only one who falls apart like this, that everyone else has it together
• My whole instinct is to push pain away and grab at anything that feels good, and I’m tired of how walled-off that makes me

Practices that may help

1. Use flash tonglen in the moment of encountering suffering
   A single in-breath of someone’s pain and an out-breath of goodwill is a complete act of tonglen.
   Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
2. Direct tonglen toward a specific suffering person
   Bring a person who is suffering to mind and breathe in their pain; breathe out whatever would give them relief.
   Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
3. Acknowledge: name what is hard
   Place a hand on your heart and say, "This is a moment of suffering."
   The Self-Compassion Break
4. Common humanity: remember you are not alone
   Say to yourself: "Suffering is a part of life — I am not alone in this."
   The Self-Compassion Break
5. Tonglen: sending and taking
   Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
6. Mindful awareness of suffering
   Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
   Self-Compassion, Made Practical
7. Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
   Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
   Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
8. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
   Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
9. IMPROVE the moment
   Use Imagery, Meaning, Prayer, Relaxation, One thing, Vacation, and Encouragement to get through right now.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
10. The self-compassion break
    A three-step phrase you say in a hard moment: this is suffering, suffering is human, may I be kind to myself.
    Self-Compassion, Made Practical

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