Coaching practices for I'm Good at the Collaborative Part I Help Grow the Deal and Everyone's Warm and Then I'm So Worried About Seeming Greedy That I Walk Away with the Short End While They Take Most of What We Built I Want to Be Generous in Creating Value and Still Firmly Take My Fair Share at the End

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• I’m good at the collaborative part — I help grow the deal and everyone’s warm — and then I’m so worried about seeming greedy that I walk away with the short end while they take most of what we built.
• When I negotiate I jump straight to my offer and try to claim my slice, and I suspect I’m leaving value on the table
• We’re both playing it so close to the chest that neither of us can find a better deal, but I’m scared that if I open up about what I actually want they’ll just use it against me
• The deal is closed and fine, but I keep negotiating in the dark
• We finally reached a deal, but I have this nagging sense we both grabbed the first version that worked just to be done

Practices that may help

1. Create value first, then claim your share
   Expand the pie before you fight over slices — but don’t forget to take your slice.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
2. Expand the pie before you divide it
   In negotiations, surface what the other side actually values most before claiming your share.
   Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
3. Share information to unlock value
   Reveal interests (not your bottom line) so both sides can find the better deal.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
4. Run a negotiation debrief to learn what value was left on the table
   After closing, compare priorities with the other side to see the trades you both missed.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
5. Use a post-settlement settlement to improve a deal after agreement
   Once you have a deal, offer to keep exploring whether a better one exists for both sides.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
6. Invent options for mutual gain
   Brainstorm multiple possible deals before deciding, expanding the pie before splitting it.
   Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation
7. Reject the fixed-pie assumption
   Stop assuming your gain must be their loss — most negotiations have hidden joint gains.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
8. Identify compatible interests for joint gain
   When both sides care about the same thing — quality, reputation, timing — agreements that serve that shared interest outperform splits.
   Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
9. Make multiple equivalent simultaneous offers (MESOs)
   Propose several package deals of equal value to you — see which the other side prefers.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
10. Trade across differing priorities
    Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
    Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie

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