Coaching für die Herausforderungen, die Menschen wirklich mitbringen (page 174)

Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical · Distinguish adaptive from complicated continuing bonds · Create meaningful grief rituals + 7 more

Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical · Distinguish adaptive from complicated continuing bonds · Create meaningful grief rituals + 7 more

Continuing practice after insight (post-kensho) · Carrying the koan through daily life · Presenting understanding to a teacher (sanzen) + 7 more

Accepting passive purification: not trying to fix it · Continuing ordinary duty and practice without consolation · Working with attachments in the night of the senses + 7 more

Glimpse practice: a 10-second recognition of aware space · Notice the noticer: find the observing awareness · Stable ground inquiry: what has not changed? + 7 more

Find the continuous self beneath changing contents · Use decisive action to build, not just express, self-concept clarity · Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical + 7 more

Track only what you genuinely intend to influence · Track the target behavior consistently, not selectively · Track leading behaviors, not lagging outcomes + 7 more

Use a continuous glucose monitor (CGM) to discover your personal glycemic responses · Glycemic Variability and Mood, Made Practical · Blood-Sugar Stability for Steadier Mood and Energy + 7 more

Improve the process, not just the output · Aim for one-percent improvement · Kaizen: Change by Tiny Steps + 7 more

Run a Friday Reflection · Use brief, frequent touch-points rather than long, rare meetings · Improve the process, not just the output + 7 more

Improve the process, not just the output · Aim for one-percent improvement · Kaizen: Change by Tiny Steps + 7 more

Carrying the koan through daily life · Zen Koans: Inquiry Beyond Reason · Dropping the koan into the body + 7 more

Continuous noting — extending the practice into daily activity · Basic noting — rising and falling · Advanced noting — noting the act of noting itself + 7 more

Glimpse practice: a 10-second recognition of aware space · Cultivating a present-moment aesthetic · Contact with the present moment + 7 more

Coordinating dhikr with the breath · Silent dhikr (khafi): inner remembrance · Space retrieval attempts across increasing intervals + 7 more

Notice and name mixed or contradictory emotions simultaneously · Allow mixed and blended feelings · Audit your self-beliefs for consistency + 7 more

Deliberately consider the opposite hypothesis · Invite an adversarial collaborator · Separate the consensus view from the correct one + 7 more

Contrast training · Use multiple varied examples to map the concept’s true shape · High-variability exposure + 7 more

Recognize when contrast is being used on you · The Contrast Principle, Made Practical · Contrast training + 7 more

Sequence information so the most favorable item follows the least favorable · Recognize when contrast is being used on you · The Contrast Principle, Made Practical + 7 more

Canonical contrast after failure · Contrast training · Use contrast deliberately in self-assessment to calibrate motivation + 7 more

Contrast training · The Contrast Principle, Made Practical · High-variability exposure + 7 more

The Contrast Principle, Made Practical · Social proof · Cialdini’s Principles of Influence + 7 more

Contrast training · Use multiple varied examples to map the concept’s true shape · Interleave related skills, not random subjects + 7 more

Write your generativity chapter · Practice owning your contribution in group settings · Balance agency and communion themes in your story + 7 more

Look for contribution, not blame · Identify the reinforcing and balancing loops · Strengthen corrective loops and weaken runaway ones + 7 more

Argument Mapping · IFS Parts Mapping, Made Practical · Evaluate the argument structure, not the source + 7 more

Build meaning through contribution rather than achievement (meaning pillar) · Define success by growth and contribution, not scorekeeping · Give recognition generously and specifically + 7 more

Encourage specific contributions and efforts · Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome · Sportscast what you see rather than directing + 7 more

Build contributor safety — people offer ideas without fear of rejection · Develop challenger safety — dissent and challenge are welcomed, not punished · Establish inclusion safety — belonging without conditions + 7 more

Locus of Control: Building a Sense of Agency · Reframe outcomes toward effort and strategy · Map your locus of control by domain + 7 more

Values Card Sort · Master the core 12-exercise HICT circuit · Interleaving + 7 more

Identify the single most important lever you actually have · Filter goals through the controllability test · Learn to distinguish necessary control from overcontrol + 7 more

The Dichotomy of Control: Epictetus’ Central Lesson · The discipline of desire · The dichotomy-of-control check + 7 more

Increase perceived controllability and predictability · Use moderate-intensity exercise as a hormetic stress · Build perceived control by focusing on your sphere of influence + 7 more

Filter goals through the controllability test · Protect your sense of autonomy while pursuing the goal · Sidestep the SMART pitfalls + 7 more

Filter goals through the controllability test · Process Goals, Made Practical · Design process goals that are specific, observable, and within your control + 7 more

Train imagery vividness and controllability as skills · Rehearse the full scenario in vivid mental imagery · Imaginal exposure: pair relaxation with vivid mental imagery + 7 more

Sort the situation into controllables and uncontrollables · Filter goals through the controllability test · The control sort + 7 more

Controlled Articular Rotations (CARs) · Hip 90/90 position · Thoracic spine rotation + 7 more

Use controlled breathing to manage arousal during exposure · Paced breathing: make the exhale longer than the inhale · Connected circular breathing — the core technique + 7 more

Slow negatives (controlled lowering) · Eccentric overload using bands or weight releasers · Eccentric Training, Made Practical + 7 more

Running the Experiment and Observing Results · Designing the Experiment · Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World + 7 more

Divergent Thinking: Generating Many Ideas · Combine and build on others’ ideas · Combine + 7 more

Place your message in a context that evokes the right associations · Self-as-Context (Observing Self), Made Practical · Document key agreements in writing across the style gap + 7 more

Practise specific conversation micro-skills · Build scripts for situation entry and transitions · Treat small talk as a gateway, not a waste + 7 more

Build scripts for situation entry and transitions · Treat small talk as a gateway, not a waste · Open with "What’s on your mind?" + 7 more

Practise specific conversation micro-skills · Treat small talk as a gateway, not a waste · Build scripts for situation entry and transitions + 7 more

Be a good listener; encourage others to talk about themselves · Don’t make it about you · Learn to look + 7 more

Train at conversational pace for aerobic base · Use minimal encouragers · Match the other person’s energy and pace, not just their words + 7 more

Train at conversational pace for aerobic base · Match the other person’s energy and pace, not just their words · Use minimal encouragers + 7 more

Use silence as the follow-up question · Use silence intentionally · Listen charismatically + 7 more

The Pickle Jar Theory of Time Management · Build a cookie jar of past wins to draw from · The Accountability Mirror: David Goggins’s Radical Honesty Practice + 7 more

Use herbs and spices liberally as low-calorie polyphenol sources · Use extra-virgin olive oil as your primary cooking fat · Steady your blood sugar across the day + 7 more

Make the bedroom cool and dark · Design the bedroom as a single-purpose sleep cue · Keep the bedroom at 18–20°C for sleep + 7 more

Make the bedroom cool and dark · Keep the bedroom at 18–20°C for sleep · Design the bedroom as a single-purpose sleep cue + 7 more

Make the bedroom cool and dark · Keep the bedroom at 18–20°C for sleep · Cool the bedroom to 18–20°C (65–68°F) + 7 more

Cool the purchase by abstracting it · Cool down a hot temptation by reframing it · Locate the urge in your body + 7 more

Add resistant starch through cooled cooked starches · Add soluble fiber to carbohydrate-heavy meals · Eat vegetables and protein before carbohydrates at each meal + 7 more

Sitali (cooling breath) · Slow diaphragmatic yoga breathing · Work with the classical two-breath texture + 7 more

Apply a 24-hour (or 72-hour) rule to non-essential purchases · Create a script-interrupt for high-stakes financial decisions · Reframe windfalls before they evaporate + 7 more

Apply a 24-hour (or 72-hour) rule to non-essential purchases · Withdrawer: signal presence before retreating · Discipline your inflation adjustments + 7 more

Apply a 24-hour (or 72-hour) rule to non-essential purchases · The 24-hour pause on non-essential purchases · Cooling-off and waiting rules + 7 more

Apply a 24-hour (or 72-hour) rule to non-essential purchases · The Spending Fast, Made Practical · Build the post-fast spending plan before the fast ends + 7 more

Assess your VO2max regularly with a validated field test · Assess your VO2 max with a field test or lab test · VO2 max intervals (Zone 4–5) to push your aerobic ceiling + 7 more

Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations · Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead · Create a brief cope ahead card to take into the situation + 7 more

Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead · Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations · Do a mind sweep to surface anything the system hasn’t captured + 7 more

Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations · Describe the difficult situation specifically and realistically · Run a mental simulation before committing to a course of action + 7 more

The future life line · Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations · Invoke the outside view before committing to any significant plan + 7 more

Extinguish conditioned cravings through cue exposure without response · Urge Surfing: Riding the Wave of a Craving · Ride the wave to its peak and down + 7 more

Access positive emotion during adversity, not after · Wait until the adversity has passed its acute phase before seeking benefits · Make extra deposits during difficult life periods + 7 more

Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead · Expect to adapt more than you think you will · Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations + 7 more

The Coping Card · Make a physical card and practice reading it when calm · Write a rational response that actually works for you + 7 more

The Coping Card · Identifying and challenging dysfunctional coping modes · Schema flashcards: the healthy adult’s response to an activated schema + 7 more

Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead · Debrief after each stressful encounter · The Coping Card + 7 more

Plan for obstacles with coping plans · Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead · Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations + 7 more

Acknowledge the pain, validate the feeling, normalize the struggle · Compassionate Letter Writing · Offer gentle, wise guidance — not fixing or lecturing + 7 more

Plan for obstacles with coping plans · Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations · Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead + 7 more

The Coping Card · Create a brief cope ahead card to take into the situation · Plan for obstacles with coping plans + 7 more

Plan for obstacles with coping plans · Create a brief cope ahead card to take into the situation · Add a behavioral action sequence to the back of the card + 7 more

Plan for obstacles with coping plans · Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead · Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations + 7 more

Coping Questions · The Coping Card · Ask the workability question + 7 more

The Coping Card · Make a physical card and practice reading it when calm · Create a brief cope ahead card to take into the situation + 7 more

The Coping Card · Match coping mode to what is actually controllable · Select the specific coping skills you will use — in advance + 7 more

Use positive reappraisal and benefit-finding intentionally · Debrief after each stressful encounter · Match coping mode to what is actually controllable + 7 more

Match coping mode to what is actually controllable · Accumulate mastery experiences as confidence deposits · Build self-efficacy through mastery experiences + 7 more

The Coping Card · Add a behavioral action sequence to the back of the card · Make a physical card and practice reading it when calm + 7 more

The Coping Card · Select the specific coping skills you will use — in advance · Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations + 7 more

Select the specific coping skills you will use — in advance · Prepare coping self-talk in advance · Build coping skills before the storm + 7 more

Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox · Match coping mode to what is actually controllable · The Coping Card + 7 more

Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better · Retell the story of the death and its aftermath · Task 2: Work through the pain of grief + 7 more

Check for catastrophizing · Stress test plans against outcomes beyond the historical range · Catastrophizing (magnification and jumping to conclusions) + 7 more

Copy masters to see how they made choices you take for granted · Steal, steal, then remix · Imitate, then transform + 7 more

Testing a core belief with historical evidence · Behavioral experiments to test core beliefs in vivo · Turn the "why" on your own assumptions + 7 more

Testing a core belief with historical evidence · Turn the "why" on your own assumptions · Behavioral experiments to test core beliefs in vivo + 7 more

Testing a core belief with historical evidence · Behavioral experiments to test core beliefs in vivo · Distinguishing automatic thoughts from core beliefs + 7 more

Behavioral experiments to test core beliefs in vivo · Compassionate reframing of the core belief’s origin · Socialise your values and expectations to reduce hidden motivation barriers + 7 more

The positive data log for core belief repair · Behavioral experiments to test core beliefs in vivo · Testing a core belief with historical evidence + 7 more

Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted · Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better · Compassionate reframing of the core belief’s origin + 7 more

Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World · Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Made Practical · Behavioral experiments to test core beliefs in vivo + 7 more