Coaching für die Herausforderungen, die Menschen wirklich mitbringen (page 67)

Notice when you are in soldier mode · Build a team whose combined strengths cover all four domains · Recognize when contrast is being used on you + 7 more

Prepare coping self-talk in advance · Manage emotional arousal before and during problem solving · Inventory your coping resources (secondary appraisal) + 7 more

Deliberately engage loss-oriented work · Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it · Task 2: Work through the pain of grief + 7 more

Paraphrase instead of copying · Record: capture main ideas, not verbatim transcripts · Rewrite ideas in your own words + 7 more

Catch the four horsemen · Debrief and repair after the conflict is over · Build a culture of genuine appreciation as a horsemen antidote + 7 more

Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships · Creating space: the paradox of distance and desire · Rekindling after a drift: returning to aliveness + 7 more

Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others · Share tasks equitably — and feel equitable about it · Testing a core belief with historical evidence + 7 more

Identify your cue · Build a new cue–behavior association for habits you want to start · Build a craving deliberately to cement a new habit + 7 more

Respond productively to failure and bad news · Debrief after each stressful encounter · Apply three good things to work contexts specifically + 7 more

Keep the cue and reward, swap the routine · Map the cue-routine-reward loop · Build a craving deliberately to cement a new habit + 7 more

Recognize and recover from spoon debt · Audit and renegotiate your commitments · Schedule recovery proactively, not reactively + 7 more

Understand your procrastination as a protection strategy, not laziness · Identify and reduce perfectionism-driven aversion · Raise your expectancy of success before starting + 7 more

Write about your worries before a high-stakes performance · Use frequent low-stakes quizzes rather than rare high-stakes tests · Apply EFT to specific performance anxiety triggers + 7 more

Read one section at a time with full attention · Close-and-recall before re-reading · Generate questions before reading to drive deep processing + 7 more

Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately · Repair quickly and thoroughly · Treat conflict as maintenance, not maintenance failure + 7 more

Make praise as specific as criticism · Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback · Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval + 7 more

Label the emotion · Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others · Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up + 7 more

Parkinson’s Law of Triviality: Stop Bikeshedding · Memento mori — the mortality reflection · Route low-stakes decisions to async channels instead of meetings + 7 more

Be Fair: include yourself in the fairness you extend to others · Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Respond non-punitively to mistakes + 7 more

Use a capture system to close open loops · Use the pull of unfinished tasks as a planning signal · The Zeigarnik Effect: How Unfinished Tasks Occupy Your Mind + 7 more

Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives · Ask genuine, situational questions + 7 more

Use near-end acceleration intentionally on multi-session goals · The Goal Gradient Effect: Why Getting Closer Makes You Faster · Stack proximal milestones beneath a stretch target + 7 more

Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It · Name the affect before you reason from it · Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice + 7 more

Communicate your theme-day structure to collaborators · Set up a simple To Do / Doing / Done board · Dedicate a day (or half-day) to administrative work + 7 more

The 10-10-10 Rule · Use the 10-year view to check values alignment · Calibrate the time horizons to the actual decision + 7 more

Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after · Allow the sensations without resisting · Deploy 4-7-8 as an acute anxiety interrupt + 7 more

The 2-Hour Social Media Cap · Track your actual usage for one week before capping · Set hard app limits using built-in screen-time tools + 7 more

The Pre-Sleep Worry Buffer · Deploy 4-7-8 as an acute anxiety interrupt · Break the anxiety-about-sleep loop + 7 more

Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after · Deploy 4-7-8 as an acute anxiety interrupt · Rapid relaxation: achieve a relaxation response in 20–30 seconds + 7 more

Execute a full 30-day break from optional technologies · Build one social-media-free day per week into the cap framework · The 30-day digital declutter + 7 more

Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after · Rapid relaxation: achieve a relaxation response in 20–30 seconds · Deploy 4-7-8 as an acute anxiety interrupt + 7 more

Execute a full 30-day break from optional technologies · The 30-day digital declutter · Conduct a 30-day digital declutter + 7 more

Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after · Allow the sensations without resisting · Engage with the present moment + 7 more

The 4 Disciplines of Execution (4DX) · Lead from the executing domain — deliver on goals consistently · Build a culture of discipline, not a disciplinarian culture + 7 more

The Pre-Sleep Worry Buffer · Break the anxiety-about-sleep loop · Take magnesium glycinate in the evening + 7 more

Ground before and after any mindfulness practice · The 5-4-3-2-1 senses exercise · Multi-sensory grounding as extended orienting + 7 more

Interoceptive awareness · Allow the sensations without resisting · Deploy 4-7-8 as an acute anxiety interrupt + 7 more

Witnessing thoughts — observing without being them · Be fully present without hoping for something else · Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass + 7 more

Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after · Interoceptive awareness · Allow the sensations without resisting + 7 more

Sit with the anxiety of freedom · Spinning-in-chair induction · Orient to your surroundings + 7 more

Interoceptive awareness · Allow the sensations without resisting · Use a physical tactile anchor + 7 more

Shift from negative to positive orientation toward uncertainty · Build tolerance for uncertainty through graduated exposure · Distinguish risk from ambiguity before reacting + 7 more

Be Interested: listen and show that you are listening · Follow the speaker’s thread, not your own · Use minimal encouragers + 7 more

Radical acceptance · Identify and take the courageous action that is actually available · Accept first, then act on what can change + 7 more

Give yourself permission to feel · Avoiding anti-ideal confirmation: the sculpting that harms · Catch the four horsemen + 7 more

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical · Identify and take the courageous action that is actually available · Radical Acceptance, Made Practical + 7 more

Create and protect the couple bubble · Give yourself permission to feel · Protect fondness actively during and after conflict + 7 more

Distinguish acceptance from approval · Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away · Recognize aware presence within strong emotion + 7 more

Leaves on a stream visualization · Contain worry with a scheduled worry period · Identify what triggers rumination and what it promises + 7 more

Recognizing the dark night versus depression or failure · Use the prayer in community or accountability practice · Understanding the night as purgative rather than punitive + 7 more

Identify what triggers rumination and what it promises · Interrupt the Cognitive Attentional Syndrome · Practice letting go of hypothetical worries + 7 more

Radical acceptance · Distinguish acceptance from approval · Identify and take the courageous action that is actually available + 7 more

Identify what triggers rumination and what it promises · Leaves on a stream visualization · Practice letting go of hypothetical worries + 7 more

Close with a specific, confirmed, next-step commitment · Notice and question the story you’ve already told yourself · Choose what to address and whether to address it at all + 7 more

The speech audit: THINK before you speak · Use thought-stopping to interrupt negative self-talk spirals · Shift attention from self to situation + 7 more

Build a concrete accountability agreement · Aim for reintegration, not permanent labeling · Involve the affected community, not just the two parties + 7 more

Leaves on a stream visualization · Practice letting go of hypothetical worries · Identify what triggers rumination and what it promises + 7 more

Share the review with someone who will ask honest questions · The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method) · Run a quarterly life audit, not just an annual one + 7 more

Design cues that summon focus mode · Use a shutdown ritual · Design an environment that reliably triggers hyperfocus + 7 more

Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss · Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem + 7 more

Accountability Partners · Choose a partner who will actually hold the line · Coach each other, not just report + 7 more

Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives · Give and receive feedback with courage + 7 more

Set clear, single-point accountability · Run a weekly accountability session · Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter + 7 more

Drop the safety behaviors · Engage with the present moment · Fade reassurance-seeking + 7 more

Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter · Set clear, single-point accountability · Assign exactly one Accountable per decision + 7 more

Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Take a structured time-out · Listen far more than you talk + 7 more

Scheduled, recurring check-ins · Set clear, single-point accountability · Close with a specific, confirmed, next-step commitment + 7 more

Recognizing and managing caffeine-driven anxiety · Use a brief nap to reset an ultradian cycle · Cycle off caffeine periodically to reset adenosine receptor sensitivity + 7 more

Follow through on stated consequences — or don’t state them · Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter · Close with a specific, confirmed, next-step commitment + 7 more

Commit to consistent omega-3 intake for 6–12 weeks before evaluating · Track SUDs across sessions to see your own progress · Cycle off caffeine periodically to reset adenosine receptor sensitivity + 7 more

Describe the gap between expectation and reality, not your interpretation · Notice and question the story you’ve already told yourself · Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter + 7 more

Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up · Fogging · Take a structured time-out + 7 more

Sharing scores with an accountability partner · Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter · Accountability Partners + 7 more

Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after · Stay in the situation for the full arc · Allow the sensations without resisting + 7 more

Accountability Partners · Close with a specific, confirmed, next-step commitment · Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter + 7 more

The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical · Use grounding before anxiety peaks, not after · Balanced, compassionate self-talk + 7 more

Accountability Partners · Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter · Create a culture of peer-to-peer accountability + 7 more

Catch the four horsemen · Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships · Recognize and replace the Four Horsemen + 7 more

Run a weekly accountability session · Scheduled, recurring check-ins · Run a weekly leadership team meeting focused on strategic issues + 7 more

Avoiding anti-ideal confirmation: the sculpting that harms · Move toward a secure baseline -- in yourself first · Build secure-functioning habits + 7 more

The Accountability Mirror: David Goggins’s Radical Honesty Practice · The daily accountability mirror · Outperform expectations in every context + 7 more

Avoiding anti-ideal confirmation: the sculpting that harms · Give yourself permission to feel · Behavioral confirmation audit: how are you treating your partner? + 7 more

The Accountability Mirror: David Goggins’s Radical Honesty Practice · The daily accountability mirror · Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter + 7 more

Behavioral Activation: Acting Your Way Out of Low Mood · Aerobic exercise for low mood and depression · Schedule social contact as a priority activity + 7 more

Create safety for an honest account before expecting one · Close with a specific, confirmed, next-step commitment · Build a concrete accountability agreement + 7 more

Drop the safety behaviors · Fade reassurance-seeking · The 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique + 7 more

Drop the safety behaviors · Counter-Conditioning and Systematic Desensitization · Relaxation cue anchoring + 7 more

Accountability Partners · Anchor the sabbath to a social commitment · Choose a partner who will actually hold the line + 7 more

Use a small ask to repair a strained relationship · Discovering and acting on each other’s languages · Build a culture of genuine appreciation as a horsemen antidote + 7 more

Use a small ask to repair a strained relationship · Dialogue with perpetual problems · Turn toward bids for connection + 7 more

Accountability Partners · Choose a partner who will actually hold the line · Coach each other, not just report + 7 more

Send proactive, brief status updates · Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss · Map your manager’s top three priorities + 7 more

Accountability Partners · Choose a partner who will actually hold the line · Coach each other, not just report + 7 more

Give and receive feedback with courage · Assess readiness task by task, not person by person · Use genius mapping in onboarding + 7 more

Accountability Partners · Choose a partner who will actually hold the line · Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter + 7 more

Behavioral confirmation audit: how are you treating your partner? · Give regular assurances of commitment · Satisfaction audit: tracking what is actually good + 7 more

Close the GROW loop with session review · Coach each other, not just report · Raise awareness and build responsibility simultaneously + 7 more

Follow flow as a clue · Discovering and acting on each other’s languages · Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it + 7 more

Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter · Design the fix to prevent recurrence, not just to recover from this instance · Distinguish system causes from individual causes in the analysis + 7 more

Discovering and acting on each other’s languages · Follow flow as a clue · The Five Love Languages, Honestly + 7 more