Coaching practices for How to Praise

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• My praise is all vague "nice work, good stuff" while every critique I give is razor-specific
• I praise my kid constantly
• Praise slides right off me because it feels like flattery I can’t trust, but I notice I actually relax when someone tells me the plain truth about myself
• When someone does something genuinely great I tend to file it away to mention at their review, and by the time it comes around it’s gone cold and vague
• I praise my kid constantly

Practices that may help

1. Make praise as specific as criticism
   Vague praise is nearly worthless; name exactly what was good and why.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
2. Encourage specific contributions and efforts
   "You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
3. Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback
   Train yourself to want feedback that is true over feedback that feels good.
   Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
4. One-minute praisings: specific, immediate, genuine
   Praise that names the exact behavior immediately after it occurs reinforces that behavior far more effectively than delayed or generic recognition.
   The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
5. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
   Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
6. Give recognition generously and specifically
   Call out others’ contributions publicly, specifically, and without claiming credit for yourself.
   Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
7. Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
   Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
8. Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
   Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
   Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
9. Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
   Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
10. Give recognition that names the person’s specific effort, not just the outcome
    Generic praise signals you were not paying attention; specific recognition proves you were.
    Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor

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