Coaching practices for Career Conversation Request
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I want to message someone in a field I’m curious about, but I freeze on what to even say
- The conversation goes great and then it just...
- Someone asks "so what are you looking for?" and I ramble out something vague and apologetic
- I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
- Someone gave me real time and good advice, and weeks go by where I never circle back to tell them I actually used it
Practices that may help
- Request the conversation the right way
A short, specific, no-pressure request gets far more responses than a vague networking ask.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Close every informational interview with one forward step
End by asking: "Is there someone else you think I should talk to?"
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
An informational interview is a low-stakes conversation with someone in a role or field you’re curious about — you ask questions, they share experience, and no job is on the table. Richard Bolles’s What Color Is Your Parachute? popularised this as a career research tool; the evidence is largely observational and practitioner, but it consistently shows that direct conversation with insiders produces better career decisions and unexpected referrals. - Practise your story before you need it
Have a clear, genuine two-minute narrative about who you are and where you’re headed.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Send a meaningful thank-you note
Write a follow-up that references something specific and reports back on how you used their advice.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Build and work a target list of roles and organisations
Replace passive job board browsing with active research into specific organisations you want to understand.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Listen for what isn’t in the job description
Focus on the texture of day-to-day work, not the official narrative.
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - DEAR MAN: making effective requests
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce — then Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Use the door-in-the-face structure in salary and price negotiations
In salary negotiation, opening high is partly a door-in-the-face move — your real ask lands against a high anchor.
The Door-in-the-Face Technique, Made Practical
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