Coaching practices for Coaching Question Techniques

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I think I’m asking questions, but they’re really suggestions in disguise
  • When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person
  • My conversations just sort of trail off when the time runs out, and people leave with a polite thanks
  • I only ever coach in the rare formal sit-down and then default to firing off answers in every quick hallway exchange
  • The conversation keeps circling the same complaint without ever landing anywhere, and it slowly dawns on me that the person venting to me has never once said what they actually want to come out of this

Practices that may help

  1. Powerful open questions at every stage
    Ask questions that invite thinking, not ones that suggest answers — and ask more than you tell.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  2. Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
    Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
  3. Close with "What was most useful for you?"
    The closing question turns the conversation into a learning that sticks — and teaches you what is actually valuable.
    The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
  4. Use GROW in brief leadership conversations, not just formal coaching sessions
    Apply GROW structure to 5-minute hallway conversations and 1-on-1 check-ins — not only to hour-long coaching sessions.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
  5. Ask "What do you want?"
    People often know what they want but haven’t said it — asking directly surfaces it and shifts from complaint to intention.
    The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
  6. The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like
    Michael Bungay Stanier’s seven questions — from "What’s on your mind?" through "What was most useful for you?" — are a practical system for coaching conversations that takes less than a minute to learn and a career to master. The framework is practitioner-derived from behavioral coaching practice; its mechanisms are grounded in autonomy support, self-determination, and the generation effect. The questions work because they shift the cognitive labor back to the person who owns the problem.
  7. Obstacle anticipation before close
    Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  8. Rewrite internal-focus coaching cues as external-focus equivalents
    Audit your coaching language and convert body-focused instructions to effect-focused ones.
    External Focus of Attention, Made Practical
  9. Clarify the Goal with precision
    Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  10. Generate Options before evaluating any
    Brainstorm all possible paths before judging — then the coachee, not the coach, narrows them.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical

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