Coaching practices for Disclose Interests Negotiation

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  • We’re both playing it so close to the chest that neither of us can find a better deal, but I’m scared that if I open up about what I actually want they’ll just use it against me
  • I’m holding my real reasons close because saying what I actually need out loud feels like handing over leverage
  • I’m walking into this assuming it’s a fixed pie where their win is my loss, and I’ve only ever thought through my own side
  • The deal is closed and fine, but I keep negotiating in the dark
  • The other person is dug in on a flat demand and I’m about to start countering it

Practices that may help

  1. Share information to unlock value
    Reveal interests (not your bottom line) so both sides can find the better deal.
    Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
  2. Disclose your own interests explicitly — not just your positions
    Stating what you actually need — not just what you’re asking for — opens the door to creative solutions you couldn’t have imagined asking for.
    Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
  3. Map interests for both sides before generating solutions
    Write down both parties’ known and inferred interests before proposing anything — the map reveals trades that no single position could.
    Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
  4. Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
    A position is what someone says they want ("I need $80,000"); an interest is why they want it ("I need to cover my expenses and feel valued"). Fisher and Ury’s insight in Getting to Yes is that positions in direct conflict often mask compatible interests — and that negotiating on interests rather than positions is the main lever for creating agreements that satisfy both parties rather than splitting the difference.
  5. Run a negotiation debrief to learn what value was left on the table
    After closing, compare priorities with the other side to see the trades you both missed.
    Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
  6. Ask "why" before proposing any solution
    Understand the interest driving a position before generating any solution — solutions invented before interests are understood usually solve the wrong problem.
    Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
  7. Distinguish substantive, procedural, and psychological interests
    The interest behind a position is often not about the money or the terms — it may be about face, fairness, or control.
    Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
  8. Identify compatible interests for joint gain
    When both sides care about the same thing — quality, reputation, timing — agreements that serve that shared interest outperform splits.
    Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
  9. Trade across issues where each side has different priorities
    Give the counterpart what they care most about; get what you care most about — logrolling is only possible when interests differ.
    Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
  10. Focus on interests, not positions
    Ask why a position is taken — the underlying interest is almost always more negotiable than the stated demand.
    Principled Negotiation, Made Practical

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